If one advances Confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he’ll meet with a success unexpected in common hours. ~Henry David Thoreau
Connecting with your TRUE SELF, this is your internal power connecting with the Infinite. The Infinite gives us Confidence, because it IS Confidence. When open to this connection with the Infinite, we are able to expand our personal awareness and experience our TRUE SELF, living a life of TRUE LOVE.
Knowing that Authentic Self-Confidence is our birthright, because we are alive and breathing, creates a deserving of Confidence. We deserve to be empowered to speak and act on our TRUE SELF. Having trust in ourselves. Doubts may came up, we recognize them and let them go. We can take a deep breath and remain in our calm, and open state of mind. When we trust the Infinite, we trust ourselves.
Something to remember: We do NOT generate our Self-Confidence, we draw from our Authentic Self-Confidence.
Thinking back to your childhood, what did you want to be when you grew up? Do you recall what it was? How about after graduating from high school – was there a passion for career plans? Did you ever pursue that dream? Or as for many of us grown-ups, did your confidence in those ideas just fade away as did the time? As the time goes by, it seems our ability to dream and have belief in ourselves can just dwindle away. It is natural in the human realm of life for outside forces to stop us from doing what we would love to do, or to be doing. UNLESS we choose to awaken our TRUE SELF, discovering that we have the confidence inside ourselves that is unshakable, because it is in our very DNA. So, you may ask, if confidence is IN us, how do we access it?
Let’s start here, with another common questions: What exactly is self-confidence and self-image?
For many of us, self-confidence and our self-image is formed by outside influences – such as our parents, our school teachers, even people in popular culture have trained us to “think” we have to live our lives a particular way, behave or act in a certain way, or even try to look a certain way. Maybe unskilled (possibly doing the best they knew at the time) made insensitive comments when we went out on our own or tried something different, harmed our confidence, allowing us to settle, and go on feeling unworthy to live the life we were dreaming of and meant to live. We need to know in our minds and our hearts that deep down there is MORE IN US! something GREATER, something that IS full of the confidence we’ve been freely given and we deserve. Deep down, OUR SPIRIT is calling us, desiring us to realize that WE ARE CAPABLE of MORE, simply because WE ARE MORE!
Whatever you choose to call it – Spirit, Source, Being, or simply Self. Whatever its name, the internal power is in connection with the Infinite, the Infinite breaths us, and beats our hearts the Infinite provides our unending supply of confidence, because it IS CONFIDENCE. We just have to be open to connecting with the Infinite in a way that will expand our awareness, that we may experience the life we desire.
We are DESERVING of Authentic Self-Confidence, it is our BIRTHRIGHT! simply by virtue of being born and alive. When we draw from this self-confidence we feel safe to speak and act on OUR truth, no one is entitled to override this, not even ourselves. This is a deep sense of trust in our SELF, then by extension, the world. Restoring the trust in ourselves allows us to be still within our self, listen from within our self, and give our self permission to be quiet and be connected with the Infinite to know and share our TRUE SELF.
Something to remember: We are ALL brought into this world in the same way, we are each a blessing born! We had only the Infinite to trust to “interpret” our communication to our caregiver getting our basic needs met… when we were hungry, “I am hungry” cry. When we were wet, “My diaper needs changed” cry, something is uncomfortable, “I’m not feeling good” cry. We trusted, as we knew no other way, it was our only option. As we’ve grown, we received grace from our caregivers as we learned to crawl then walk and talk with many ups and downs. Then as we got older, that trust was channeled to our earthly ways, our earthly understandings, we became molded to our earthly mind generating our confidence, not drawing from our confidence we have already been given.
Here is a recap of what I have learned, utilizing myself and in addition want to share with you:
Confidence is NOT based in our behavior, past, talents or IQ!
Confidence IS based in knowing and trusting there IS a power within US that gives us life!
We are human, and we are NOT able to feel 100% confident 100% of the time!
Everyone of us feels less confident at times than we want to.
So this is when we need to “borrow” confidence and strength from another. I have been so blessed and fortunate to have people in my life that I’ve been able to do just that “borrow” their confidence in ME providing the strength to re-connected to my Infinite. I LOVE to pay-it-forward, giving to others what has been given to me!
Our Spiritual DNA is PERFECT, and inside of that spiritual DNA is PERFECT CONFIDENCE!
We have to CHOOSE to re-access the confidence we were born with. Confidence has already been GIVEN to us, as our BIRTHRIGHT. In the unconscious detour in life, We were NOT meant to “generate” confidence making an ego that gets in our way creating a dead end on our detour.
Our longing for a greater confidence is actually the echo of the very Power breathing us, and beating our hearts.
Confidence comes from a source INSIDE us that is GREATER than any opinion and much STRONGER than any circumstance or situation.
Knowing and trusting your AUTHENTIC self that YOU are doing YOUR BEST in ANY moment, circumstance, or situation. (I know and trust that I can consciously “check in” with myself accepting that I am NOT perfect, but the perfect moment is present to be, and do MY BEST!)
No one else is you. No one else cares exactly the way you care. No one else is wired exactly the way you are wired. YOU ARE UNIQUE!
Unshackling an unshakable confidence helps us to overcome difficulties and master fears!
Our body is a GIFT, regardless of the opinions we or others have had about it’s size, it’s shape, it’s color, or it’s beingness.
Opinion is NOT truth!
Most of the time everyone has an opinion, that is just what it is, an opinion. The ONLY opinion we need to be concerned with is OUR opinion that comes FROM WITHIN our CORE AUTHENTIC TRUE SELF!
There are three things that have been asked of me to do on a continual basis, reminding me of MY AUTHENTIC TRUE SELF, that NO ONE else can do FOR ME:
- Make a list of my successes and recall the feelings I FELT with each of the achievements.
- Look myself in the mirror, reminding myself WHO I AM, and the POWER that is IN ME, that I have been blessed with as MY BIRTHRIGHT.
- To use the words “up until now” when remembering or recalling ANY negative comments, opinions, situations, circumstances that I or others have related to ME.
The next step I will share with you in Confidence #2 post is Feeling the Fear and Doing it Anyway. Realizing when we feel afraid of something, we are NOT alone. The Power inside of us is willing to empower, participate, and encourage us EVERY STEP OF THE WAY! as we face that fear and befriend it, we MUST remember that it was ONLY UP UNTIL NOW that it may attempt to hold us back. Exposing the symptoms of fear, makes it loose its effectiveness. I have learned one very significant step that I have taken to redirect my fear into my personal power. I am so blessed to share with you my journey to Authentic Self-Confidence.
To Your Authentic Core Self, having Authentic Self-Confidence,