support – A Splendid Life Now!

If one advances Confidently in the direction of his dreams, he will meet with success. By endeavoring to live the life he has imagined, he’ll meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
~Henry David Thoreau

Connecting with your TRUE SELF, this is your internal power connecting with the Infinite. The Infinite gives us Confidence, because it IS Confidence. When open to this connection with the Infinite, we can expand our personal awareness. We experience our TRUE SELF. This allows us to live a life of TRUE LOVE.

Knowing that Authentic Self-Confidence is our birthright, because we are alive and breathing, creates a deserving of Confidence. We deserve to be empowered to speak and act on our TRUE SELF. Having trust in ourselves. Doubts come up, we recognize them and let them go. We can take a deep breath and stay in our calm, and open state of mind. When we trust the Infinite, we trust ourselves.

Something to remember: We do NOT generate our Self-Confidence, we draw from our Authentic Self-Confidence.

Thinking back to your childhood, what did you want to be when you grew up? Do you recall what it was? How about after graduating from high school – was there a passion for career plans? Did you ever pursue that dream? Or as for many of us grown-ups, did your confidence in those ideas just fade away as did the time? As the time goes by, it seems our ability to dream and have belief in ourselves can just dwindle away. Outside forces often stop us from doing what we would love to do. They prevent us from being who we would love to be. We must choose to awaken our TRUE SELF. In doing so, we discover that we have unshakable confidence inside ourselves. This confidence is in our very DNA. So, you ask, if confidence is IN us, how do we access it?

Let’s start here, with another common questions: What exactly is self-confidence and self-image?

For many of us, self-confidence and our self-image are formed by outside influences. Our parents and school teachers train us to “think” we must live a particular way. Even people in popular culture influence us to behave, act, or try to look a certain way. Maybe unskilled people made insensitive comments when we went out on our own or tried something different. They did the best they knew at the time. These comments harmed our confidence, allowing us to settle. We went on feeling unworthy to live the life we were dreaming of and meant to live. We need to know in our minds and hearts that there is MORE IN US deep down! Something GREATER, something that IS full of the confidence we’ve been freely given and we deserve. Our SPIRIT is calling us, desiring us to realize that WE ARE CAPABLE of MORE, simply because WE ARE MORE!

Whatever you choose to call it – Spirit, Source, Being, or simply Self. Whatever its name, the internal power is in connection with the Infinite. The Infinite breathes us and beats our hearts. The Infinite provides our unending supply of confidence because it IS CONFIDENCE. We need to be open to connecting with the Infinite. This openness will expand our awareness. Then, we experience the life we desire.

We are DESERVING of Authentic Self-Confidence, it is our BIRTHRIGHT! simply by virtue of being born and alive. When we draw from this self-confidence, we feel safe to speak and act on OUR truth. No one is entitled to override this. Not even ourselves. This is a deep sense of trust in our SELF, then by extension, the world. Restoring the trust in ourselves allows us to be still within our self. We can listen from within our self. We give our self permission to be quiet and be connected with the Infinite. This connection helps us to know and share our TRUE SELF.

Something to remember: We are ALL brought into this world in the same way, we are each a blessing born! We had only the Infinite to trust to “interpret” our communication to our caregiver getting our basic needs met… when we were hungry, “I am hungry” cry. When we were wet, “My diaper needs changed” cry, something is uncomfortable, “I’m not feeling good” cry. We trusted, as we knew no other way, it was our only option. As we’ve grown, we received grace from our caregivers as we learned to crawl. Then, we learned to walk. We began to talk with many ups and downs. Then as we got older, that trust was channeled to our earthly ways and our earthly understandings. We became molded to our earthly mind, generating our confidence. We did not draw from the confidence we have already been given.

Here is a recap of what I have learned, utilizing myself and in addition want to share with you:

Confidence is NOT based in our behavior, past, talents or IQ!

Confidence IS based in knowing and trusting there IS a power within US that gives us life!

We are human, and we are NOT able to feel 100% confident 100% of the time!

Everyone of us feels less confident at times than we want to.

So this is when we need to “borrow” confidence and strength from another. I have been so blessed and fortunate. There are people in my life whose confidence I have borrowed. This confidence has provided the strength to reconnect to my Infinite. I LOVE to pay-it-forward, giving to others what has been given to me!

Our Spiritual DNA is PERFECT, and inside of that spiritual DNA is PERFECT CONFIDENCE!

We have to CHOOSE to re-access the confidence we were born with. Confidence has already been GIVEN to us, as our BIRTHRIGHT. In the unconscious detour in life, we were NOT meant to “generate” confidence. Creating an ego gets in our way and creates a dead end on our detour.

Our longing for a greater confidence is actually the echo of the very Power breathing us, and beating our hearts.

Confidence comes from a source INSIDE us. This source is GREATER than any opinion. It is much STRONGER than any circumstance or situation.

Knowing and trusting your AUTHENTIC self that YOU are doing YOUR BEST in ANY moment, circumstance, or situation. I know and trust that I can consciously check in with myself, accepting that I am not perfect. However, this perfect moment is here to be, and to do my best!

No one else is you. No one else cares exactly the way you care. No one else is wired exactly the way you are wired. YOU ARE UNIQUE!

Unshackling an unshakable confidence helps us to overcome difficulties and master fears!

Our body is a GIFT. This is true regardless of our opinions about its size, shape, color, or being. It also holds true regardless of the opinions others have had.

Opinion is NOT truth!

Most of the time, everyone has an opinion—that is just what it is—an opinion. We only need to be concerned with our own opinions. They come from within our core, authentic, true self.

There are three things that have been asked of me to do on a continual basis, reminding me of MY AUTHENTIC TRUE SELF, that NO ONE else can do FOR ME:

Make a list of my successes and recall the feelings I FELT with each of the achievements.
Look myself in the mirror. I remind myself WHO I AM. I acknowledge the POWER that is IN ME. I have been blessed with this power as MY BIRTHRIGHT.
Use the words “up until now” when recalling negative comments and opinions. These include situations and circumstances that I or others have related to ME.

The next step I will share with you in Confidence #2 post is Feeling the Fear and Doing it Anyway. Realizing when we feel afraid of something, we are NOT alone. The Power inside of us is willing to empower, participate, and encourage us EVERY STEP OF THE WAY! As we face that fear and befriend it. We MUST remember that it was ONLY UP UNTIL NOW that it tried to hold us back. Exposing the symptoms of fear, makes it loose its effectiveness. I have learned one very significant step that I have taken to redirect my fear into my personal power. I am so blessed to share with you my journey to Authentic Self-Confidence.

To Your Authentic Core Self, having Authentic Self-Confidence,

Holly

Where does your feeling of confidence come from? The ring on your finger? the vehicle you drive, your job title? your education? your parents/children’s status/success? the physical possessions you have? Where you live? your community status quo?

Does your confidence come from within YOU? Knowing your physical being is in regular close connection with your spiritual being. Understanding your purpose in life. Knowing who you are with confidence lets you overcome fears. You learn from failures and make important decisions along the way. These empower you to create a life you love living. You understand your DNA of Authentic Self-Confidence. You know the truth of who you are. You feel comfortable and at ease in all areas of your life, no matter what.

Today’s society has a misconception of true authentic self-confidence and living from an external ego. Keeping up with the latest and greatest technology for our kids and ourselves to be {the new} social. I’m not referring to the need for technology for academics and work. Having the latest and greatest social apps so we can communicate 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Without eye contact, body language, and not knowing how to act when “in true person.” We post pictures that are ‘photoshopped’. We hope to never show our authentic, true selves. We do this because we never match up to the techno version we’ve created and put out there. Still, that “gap” WILL catch us. We won’t or can’t ever match up to the electronic version. Whether we are aware of it, it is riding on and in us consciously or unconsciously. It leads us to live in a world based on ego and defensiveness. We are running from ourselves or even trying to catch ourselves. This creates a double battle within us 24 hours a day, 7 days a week…

As my Mentors and Life Coaches have shared with me… I would like to share with you:

Some days we feel like we are on top of and can conquer the world! Other days, we don’t even want to get out of bed. We’ve all felt that way before. What is the difference between those kinds of days? Quite often, it is the degree of self-confidence we are feeling at that time. Many factors can influence how we feel about ourselves. They also impact our ability to do the things we want to do. It can be as simple as a ‘bad hair day.’ It can also be as tough as ‘feeling the pressure’ of living up to other’s expectations. These expectations include those we’ve put out there ourselves. There is a way to keep those outside influences from impacting our self-image and self-confidence. We can have more days when we feel powerful and unstoppable from within ourselves. We CAN live with AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE empowering ourselves to love life, and love living life.

I have been taught by my teachers, mentors, and coaches. Life has also taught me through hard knocks. The truth is that we are spiritual beings who have a human experience. It is part of life that someone will say something insensitive to us that hurts our feelings or embarrasses us. The natural human response is to feel slighted or deeply hurt. It can sometimes snowball. Those unkind words play on repeat in our own minds. They develop other not-so-pleasant thoughts about themselves. This process tears down our self-esteem. Our self-image can also be affected by the perceptions we have. These perceptions come from experiences in our childhood. They can be both positive and negative. The key is: not to allow criticism or shame to become a part of our belief in ourselves. To achieve this, we need to understand who we are at our core. We should live from this core as often as possible. Let it become our pervasive thought process. It means we connect with our inner being. We recognize the Infinite side of us. We always know we are truly more than any situation, circumstance, or condition that we face. Living the absolute best we can, in any given moment, no matter what is coming AT us. Remembering, a boat can’t sink unless the water gets inside.

Our physical being must be closely connected with our spiritual being. This connection helps us gain a better understanding of our purpose in life. Authentically knowing who we are builds confidence. It empowers us to overcome fears and learn from failures. This knowledge helps us make important decisions. It also allows us to love life and love the life we are living. When we understand the DNA of Authentic Self-Confidence, we know the truth of who we are. We can feel comfortable in all areas of our life. We stay authentically self-confident, no matter what is coming at us.

When we commit to taking time to connect with the Power breathing us each day, we gain authentic confidence. This confidence allows us to look fear in the face. We can then do nothing less than become friends with it. We must always know that fear doesn’t mean we can’t, it only means we haven’t. Confidence comes only after we choose to do what we were once afraid to do.

Self-confidence grows from the seeds planted and harvested of overcoming challenges and failures, turning obstacles into opportunities. We must accept and be empowered by defeat, without being defeated. Failure is nothing more than feedback, it is actually showing us there is another way to do things.

As we make a daily decision to take action, building our Authentic Self-Confidence, we will realize Confidence is a choice. We have supreme authority over our OWN DECISIONS. We have dominion over our OWN THOUGHTS. Our THOUGHTS affect our FEELINGS, and in turn, our ACTIONS, creating our RESULTS. We are responsible and ‘RESPONSE-ABLE’ for every single thought we think, and move we make. We can be clear and confident in our decision making. Realize that Authentic Self-Confidence is the trait that transforms thoughts into action. This leads to the results we want! We confidently know there are no ‘shortcuts’. We must do confidently what is necessary for ourselves, no matter what anyone else thinks. This allows us to be the best we can be and create the authentic life we want.

You absolutely can grow Authentic Self-Confidence! All that is required is that you pay attention to YOUR ‘Inner Voice’. It all begins on the inside – inside of YOU!

How do you do that? You ask this question just as I was allowed to do. The first step is creating an understanding of what Authentic Self-Confidence is and is not. I will be sharing what I have learned in the next five posts about:

What I have learned about the truth about the source of where self-confidence comes from. Discovering what Confidence is, and is not. How to respond when Self-confidence takes a “hit”. Let it propel me towards a loving life. It should not derail me.
Stepping out of the comfort zone, doing it with confidence. Allowing authentic Confidence to overcome the fears that used to get in the way.
Changing perspective on failures in the past, now, and future. Everyone experiences failure in life. My response to the circumstances is what makes the difference in life.
I have been taught what the key is to making any important decision. I have made the most important decision in my life. I gained a new understanding to help me make any future choice with clarity and confidence.
This experience has brought me back full circle to the core of my Self-Confidence. I know that my Authentic Self is NOT made by the opinions of others. It is rather shaped from the inside out of ME. I received a secret formula. I have implemented it into my life. Some of the world’s most famous people have used this formula to create immense success in their lives and businesses.

I look forward to continuing my journey into greater Authentic Self-confidence and sharing these skills and outcomes with you. I have been blessed with many failures in my life. These failures have created stepping stones for me. At the time, I do not imagine those failures as blessings. I have been blessed with amazing mentors, coaches, therapists, pastors, and friends. Confidantes and many others have helped me, too. They have helped me recognize the stepping stones and lay them on the correct path. This has helped build the foundation for MY Authentic Core Self, creating Authentic Self-Confidence. I can only give because of what I have received. I strongly want to give others the blessings I have received…

To Your Authentic Core Self, having Authentic Self-Confidence

Holly

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