purpose – A Splendid Life Now!

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.
ee cummings

Have you been able to connect with and hear your inner voice? Have you taken time to get quiet and discover your choices or decisions that are in harmony with your highest good?

It is absolutely amazing that we have been blessed with such an amazing guidance system – in truth, it is SO much better than any other personal GPS!

It is so easy to get caught up in our daily routines and habits that we ignore the messages that our Intuition is providing us. Again, if we choose to get quiet, listening to these messages, this allows decisions to come to us faster, feeling movement forward as never before. Knowing that we can choose to get quiet, and listen to ourselves in the most external chaotic of situations. We can choose to take a breath and to quiet our internal chaos, while we listen for/to our inner voice. Sometimes we may have to physically get away to be in the quiet to get quiet, other times we may just need to take a deep breath and consciously quiet our mind while we listen.

Having freedom from the opinions of others is especially important: one of the greatest GIFTS we have been GIVEN when we were born into this life is the capacity to CONSCIOUSLY reflect within our OWN Self. Each and everyone of us can think our own thoughts, considering those thoughts BEFORE actually acting on them. We CAN UNLOCK the FREEDOM to follow OUR DESIRES and to receive the warnings when something may not be in harmony with OUR BEING.

We DO NOT need to look for, or have the approval from others. Authentic Self-Confidence can ONLY come from WITHIN US. The opinion of others is not truth – the TRUTH is WITHIN US. Developing Rock- solid Self-Confidence will support us through any challenges we face in our journey of life.

As we get in touch with our CORE being, the source of our Confidence. Discovering, and allowing our inner voice to speak, while we truly listen, THIS is what makes us feel ALIVE.

Learning the secret of where to find our Authentic Self-Confidence when we need it most, making a strong, deep, loving connection with our inner voice so we can call upon it at anytime we need to be liberated from the opinions of others is where we are now. When we are “FREE to be ME”, to be our OWN SELF, we can be confident, comfortable and feel at ease, no matter the situation.

Discovering the formula that the world’s most successful people have chosen in developing their confidence in the most heart-felt ways for decades is life changing. I will share these steps shortly, and we can walk through, one by one, applying them to each part of our lives. Putting them in to practice on a regular basis, our passion for life will amplify, and sharing this confidence from within ourselves with others around us.

One of the greatest blessings we are each given in this life is the capacity and ability to consciously reflect within our own Self. We are gifted the ability to first, think our own thoughts, then considering those thoughts BEFORE we act on them. KNOWING this allows us the FREEDOM to follow our OWN DESIRES, with the understanding we can also be aware or alerted when something is not in harmony with OUR BEING. Being aware of both internal and external influences, and how they are affecting our Authentic Self-Confidence.

Since we can remember, we have been taught to look outside ourselves and to others for approval. Seeking a smile or nod from our parents. Seeking good grades from our teachers. Seeking the glances from our romantic partner. Listening for words of approval from our spouse or partner. Seeking the promotion from our bosses. These are all things (and many more) or moments that would seem to build our confidence in some way or another… they are only external, not Authentic Self-Confidence.

Authentic Self-Confidence comes from ONLY ONE PLACE: from WITHIN. Allowing the approval of others to build us up, allows their criticism to tear us down just as easily. The fact of the matter is: the opinion of others is not truth. TRUTH is INSIDE each and every one of us. Confidence is from the inside out, THIS is what we are developing the AWARENESS of: CONFIDENCE IS FROM THE INSIDE!

When the realization and acceptance of the fact: Confidence is an inside job, becoming deeply ingrained in our being, NOTHING anyone can say or do will have the ability to negatively impact us, or tear us down for any length of time. We are UNSHACKLING from WITHIN us, something we have ALWAYS had, an UNSHAKABLE AUTHENTIC TRUE SELF-CONFIDENCE. This unshakable Self-Confidence will see us through ANY of the challenges we are facing, or that come our way from here forward.

We may have had a very specific, damaging, life-changing moment, situation or circumstance in which someone said something, or something happened that cut us to the core, as a child or as an adult. KNOW THIS: that was something that happened. What was said was not truth or what happened has a positive seed planted within it! Each of us is deserving of HAPPINESS. By BIRTHRIGHT, we are entitled to a Authentic Self-Confidence, freeing us from the opinions of others!

Spend some time, one-on-one with your Self, really get in touch with your core being, the very source of YOUR Confidence. When practiced with dedication, and true attention, these five steps, followed and practiced diligently will unshackle and expand your Self-Confidence to a new awareness.

Napoleon Hill, who studied many successful people, famously known for his research and findings, formulated these steps in which are proven to building Self-Confidence.

Napoleon Hill's Formula for Building Self-Confidence:
   Step ONE:    Believe that there is a power in you great enough that you can achieve what matters to you.
   Step TWO:    Concentrate your thoughts on creating a clear mental picture of you being the person who is living the life you desire.
   Step THREE:  Trust that the desire you hold in mind, if kept in mind, must, by invisible law reproduce itself in the world of form.
   Step FOUR:   Promise yourself to keep at it until you have developed a sufficient Self-Confidence to reach your goal.
   Step FIVE:   Commit to not only being the person who's living this life, but doing that with truth and justice in all that you do, so that all that's required to bring about this goal becomes yours.

When we are faced with overcoming failure, facing fear or there is a decision weighing heavy on us. When we feel stuck in the pursuit of our purpose, passion or life dream, you can go back to these five steps (print them off, keep them with you) for a reminder of how to access YOUR Authentic Self-Confidence. Be open to YOUR INNER VOICE, allowing it to do the talking while you do the listening, seeing the opinions of others diminish as you engage in YOUR TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE.

Here is a recap of what I have personally learned and utilize myself and would like to share with you:

The ‘self’ with a little (lowercase) “s” is our personality and all the things we have achieved or not achieved. Some identify this as our ego.
The ‘Self’ with a big (uppercase capital) “S” is the power and intelligence that is present in us at ALL times.
Trusting my Self is the ultimate in Confidence.
Confidence is not built from the outside in. It is built from THE INSIDE OUT!
Self speaks to us in the degree of OUR WILLINGNESS TO LISTEN, always in the here and now.
Utilizing Napoleon Hill’s proven Five step formula for Building Self-Confidence. Believing, Concentrating, Trusting, Promising Self and being Committed to the Self that is created in/of/for ME.
There is an art and a science to reaching our passion, purpose and dream. The art is the visioning. The science is the vibration.

The suggested actions that I do take action on each and every day are:

Following and practicing Napoleon Hill’s Formula for Building Self-Confidence
Remembering daily to place my Confidence and trust in the Power breathing me. NOT in my personality, history or talents.
Writing out a clear and detailed description of the image I desire, writing it in the present tense as if it IS real RIGHT NOW!

This is #5 of #5 in this series of Authentic Self-Confidence. Please join me for a review of all that I have shared with you about Unshackling an Unshakable True Authentic Self-Confidence, at https://www.facebook.com/unshackledhappiness/. Empowering you to turn the key and break free of your shackles with belief in your Self and your abilities to live your life with passion on purpose, starting TODAY! That is my TRUE, GIVEN passion with my purpose to empower others to be the best that they can be in any given moment, situation or under any circumstances they are facing.

GO! DO! BE! with TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE, all that YOU have been CREATE to DO and BE with PURPOSE and PASSION from WITHIN YOU!!

Cheering you on every step of the way,

Holly

Hold up your head! You were not made for failure. You were made for VICTORY! Go forward with a joyful confidence.
George Eliot

Are you feeling ready to befriend the fears that are holding you back? Are you ready to allow those fears to be stepping stones in your journey of passion and purpose in your life now?

We have all had failures in our journey this far in life, and if you haven’t well… I’m afraid life is passing you by. Those failures we’ve had, do not make any of us failures! So on the contrary – we can actually utilize our failures, and all the obstacles that have been in our way have been there to BUILD our Self-Confidence. We need to identify the gift of growth each failure has blessed us with.

There is a POWER within each of us that is GREATER than ANYTHING we have gone through, or will ever go through. As we’ve discovered, we have ALL experienced failure, that my friend, is what allows us to be HUMAN. We don’t get it ‘right’ every time, that is impossible, when we do fail, we can see and use the OPPORTUNITY to gain wisdom, understanding, growth and strength.

From the moment we were born into this life, we have faced and overcame obstacles! As I have mentioned in Confidence #2 post, we had to rely on the infinite to get us around one of our very first obstacles, communication of getting our basic needs met. Being fed, diaper changed, letting our caregiver know that we are uncomfortable. We learned to fall asleep on our own, learning to sit up, crawl, walk, talk, to tying our shoes. We’ve all put our shirt on backwards, or inside out while learning to dress ourselves. We’ve all put our shoes on the wrong feet. To a young adult learning to read a map, taking the wrong turn, or even running out of gas when we were learning to become a responsible {Response-Able} adult. Generally there was never a second thought that these were failures or that we were a failure because of them. It’s OKAY that we made mistakes along the way.

Nobody ever likes to “get it wrong.” Messing up is not fun, it can cause headaches, heartaches, and stress. There may have been a mistake so painful that we have choose to try to not ever think about it again, yet it replays again and again in our minds. Sometimes even unconsciously. Over time, (sometimes days, sometimes years) our self-confidence dissipates, and we give up because we feel as though we will never “get it right,” thinking what’s the use? There is indeed a useful part of failure – every perceived failure has a seed of success planted within it. We MUST be willing to look for it. We have to understand and trust that it is okay to get it wrong along the path to getting it right.

Whether we have had a bunch of little failures that keep adding up, or we feel like we have failed significantly… we have had failures, however, we are NOT a failure. “Failure” is just simply a meaning that we have placed on a situation that we have had. When we put it into reality, we have the POWER within us to re-frame any experience to serve us and grant us self-confidence, opposed to tearing us down. Every time something doesn’t work out or go the way we had visioned, leads us to trying it again, another way, until it does work — that my friend is simply the BLESSING and GIFT OF GROWTH! This is another part of gaining wisdom.

The expansive feeling of growing and expanding through failure, understanding and knowing that we do NOT ALWAYS have to “get it right” or be perfect. If we choose to reflect on a particular circumstance that did not turn out the way we had hoped or wanted it to, we can recognize that we are MORE than that event or circumstance. We have gained wisdom…

OK, now, take a deep breath and hear what I am about to say… you may feel discouraged and even worried that thinking about failures will only cause more feelings of failure. We DON’T stay there, we DON’T focus on the failure, we acknowledge it and we set it aside. Remember, this is about BUILDING SELF-CONFIDENCE and learning how the Power within us is greater than ANYTHING we have gone through or will ever go through.

Be GRATEFUL for this (failure) experience to learn, for it is the seed that was planted. Now, just be still, see, and even listen all while being open to the growth of your Self-Confidence.

Here is a recap of what I have learned, utilizing myself and in addition want to share with you:

I have had failure, that does NOT make me a failure, failure does NOT have me. I AM more than ANY failure I have ever had!
EVERY failure has within it, a seed of greater benefit.
I can set down any ideas I’ve had about failure, and be GRATEFUL for yet another learning, growing, strengthening day in my life.
Failure is simply another opportunity for me to learn.
Learning is done through trial and error, I started learning that way from day one of my life, it is still the same today – getting it right and getting it wrong, figuring it out as I go.
The learning through success is EQUAL to learning from failure. BOTH inform us. BOTH guide us. BOTH make us MORE of who we are capable of being!
NO ONE is exempt from failure. Everyone of us has experienced it in one form or another. It is simply part of being HUMAN!
As children, it was taken for granted that we could and should make mistakes, as adult bodies, we have adopted the thinking that we should get it right all the time.
Some of the most accomplished individuals, had some of the most massive failures, however, they DID NOT GIVE UP!

Here are three things that have been suggested I do on a continual basis, reminding me that obstacles are opportunities:

Writing out in my journal at least 10 successes that I have had in life, beginning as early as learning to walk, and tie my shoes.
Keep this affirmation in front of me: “it is OKAY to get it wrong on the way to getting it right.
When ever something does not go as I had planned, I CAN neutralize it by realizing that it is simply SOMETHING that happened.

The next step I will share with you in Confidence #4 post is Clear, Confident Decision Maker. Now that we have connected with the part of us that puts fear and failure in to it’s proper perspective, we are moving into Clear, Confident Decision Making. Here we will have a simple yet powerful strategy for helping to make decisions that are in service to the highest good. We have used this skill many of times, not even realizing it, the good news is, we will now know what it really is, developing it and strengthening it. Just a little secret I want to share with you… it only takes a bit of practice!

Here’s to GROWING and STRENGTHENING our AUTHENTIC Self-Confidence, with wisdom, power, passion, and purpose!!

Holly

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