Unexpected things happen, have Gratitude!

Posted on 08/18/2022 by HOLLY STEVENS

My life plans changed, a fork in the road I was avoiding. I saw and acknowledged it; the warning signs were there! Plan “B” was in place. However, there wasn’t a plan “B” exit.

I continually strive to live above the line with integrity, honesty, and transparency. I believed that could and would be enough. Then the ‘unexpected’ opposing stronghold began challenging my well-being; I have chosen to STOP, CHALLENGE, and CHOOSE.

I genuinely am grateful for the obstacles blocking plan “B.” I believe had plan “B” had a distinguished well, marked exit, I would have continued to blow right past it. I am ready to take my power for MY LIFE, living MY PURPOSE, ON PURPOSE, with the passion I have been created to have.

Sometimes we get squandered and don’t even realize it, and we go through the survival motions and just exist. I will admit that I am embarrassed with the “wake-up” call it took for me. The awareness, the growth, and the changes it is forcing me to make are definitely changing the trajectory of my life. Showing me the value of myself and those who genuinely care for and about me.

When we choose to not reach out to our real tribe. When we decide to try and handle things on our own because we are embarrassed, feel weak, or unworthy, we come to a place in our journey going backward.

There is no such thing as just maintaining. We are beings of energy, and energy is in constant motion. Forward or backward, positive or negative. When the universe wants or needs us to MOVE, we will be given what it takes to make it happen. Be it a nudge or a slap of reality that can lead to embarrassment if need be. It will happen!

On July 7th, 2022, that is precisely what happened to me. A big ole’ slap of uncomfortable reality. That I am and will be forever grateful for. It is not something I wish upon anyone, and it is not easy to deal with or face. However, it was something done TO ME. It was a negative choice of another human being. How I choose to respond is how I choose to let it affect me.

I am worthy of my rights and my boundaries. I am worthy of justice for my rights and my limits. Moreover, I am worthy of the lesson and the growth from the situation. I am worthy of self-love and receiving genuine love from others. Love is not earned; love is given.

As I go through this transformation in my life, I am grateful for the tools I have available to me. As the ugliness of the situation comes about, so does my ability to STOP my thoughts, CHALLENGE those thoughts, and CHOOSE how I want to respond to MY THOUGHTS that I have 100% control of. I stay conscious of my ability and power to STOP, CHALLENGE, and CHOOSE MY response to ALL THINGS.

What have I learned thus far? I have a voice. I have a right to be heard when it comes to my well-being. I do NOT have to “abide and provide” I am created to Enhance and Empower those put on my path in my life. Life is a journey, not a destination. People and things change; we must choose to GROW with life.

I am grateful for everyone in my life, whatever season I may spend with them. Some will stay, some will go; I CHOOSE to GROW. I CHOOSE to MOVE FORWARD for the greater good. This detour in my journey is a tough one. I have immense gratitude for my faith, my program, my tribe, and my strength to use as a springboard to share my story to allow others to know they do not have to go it alone!

Center of Balance, Uncategorized

Center of Balance

Posted on 06/26/202206/27/2022 by HOLLY STEVENS

First, stand in front of a mirror, feet together, and hold your arms level with your shoulders. What do you see as a replica? What exactly is halfway between your hands? Now bring each hand, placing it in the middle, over your heart, and close your eyes; what do you feel? Now take a DEEP BREATH, let it out, and do it again; what do you feel?

We take for granted that we are not in control of our heart beating and lungs breathing, and we have control over creating balance, and balance is all about CENTERING.

Creating a centered life balance begins with YOU living from YOUR CENTER.

This can look different for each of us. So many times, we want to excuse our challenges because of our upbringing, family influences, or just not knowing anything other. However, we are each UNIQUE individuals with our OWN hearts, mind, and soul, and this is how we have been intentionally created. We are designed to be who WE ARE as individuals with our OWN morals, values, and purpose.

We live with internal chaos when we reason with or excuse our challenges. In the diagram above, we can see the 5 areas of life we are responsible for in our individuality. Physical. Emotional. Spiritual. Nutritional. Environmental.

Our primary focus is on how we look physically. What our mindset is, what we eat, where we live and work, and then when we have time, we will consider the effects these have on us as the person we are. As you can see, this type of focus will eventually cancel out the “who we individually are” or, as some say, the “I AM.” Our identity becomes our family, community, work, and social circles; we blend into general society and get lost in the world.

We know we don’t feel “good”; however, we doubt that we feel “bad.” We just exist. We either dismiss the challenges and co-exist, or we believe it is okay because that is what we know as “okay.” We either have to lose something or someone of significance, or we hit our “rock bottom” knowing there’s something better and seek it out.

I have learned that those who choose to seek and understand living in balance seek it from their core center. Wanting to grow and be all they are created to be, living on purpose with purpose. Others are just okay living in their self-perceived comfort zone, and that’s okay too. There isn’t a parallel for these two types of individuals to even sit on the same teeter-totter in the same playground of life.

Those who desire to live a centered and balanced life have to choose to “seek” themselves first. Recognize there is a power greater than themselves breathing them. Choosing to look inside, feel from the inside and identify their core morals and values, live with integrity, identify their purpose, and live on purpose with genuine passion from their heart. We must seek ourselves first by glancing at our family of origin, our upbringing, the patterns, the cycles, and the “traditions.” Decern what fits us and what does not.

When we choose to decern WHO WE ARE from the CORE of our INDIVIDUAL being, we can UNshackle our health, UNshackle our love, UNshackle our happiness, and choose to live A Splendid Life NOW! being empowered and living from integrity.

We can start where we are, with what we have at this very moment. We can physically re-set our bodies to function the way it is created to work, correcting and healing from the inside out. We can recognize our mindset, increase our Emotional Intelligence love ourselves and others for exactly who we are. We can feed our body the food it needs to be healthy and “feed” our brain. (side note: did you know we consume enough preservatives to embalm ourselves SEVEN times during our lifetime? — YUCK– think about this a minute… how do you think this affects our brain?) We can influence our surrounding and environmental energies — remember science class back in the day, EVERYTHING is ENERGY. EVERYTHING has a positive and negative charge to be created or living — This is integral to our living and working environments. This is integral to our thinking and thought process.

Our Spiritual well-being can be identified in many different ways. We can not create our own heartbeat, nor can we give ourselves constant CPR to breathe. We must have a WHY! We must make a choice! We must be centered to live an unshackled and balanced life. Life is a process; we must choose to do our part and trust it.

Creating a centered life balance begins with YOU living from YOUR CORE CENTER.

Confidence

Confidence #4

Posted on 06/27/202008/10/2021 by HOLLY STEVENS

Once you make a decision, the Universe conspires to make it happen
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Discovering that you are MORE than any failure you have ever had, feeling renewed with knowing that you have a power to overcome any obstacle that comes or is put in your way. Having that amazing feeling knowing you are GREATER than ANYTHING you could ever possibly encounter. Think about it, you wouldn’t be here if you weren’t given, or didn’t have access to the ability to be an “over-comer.”

We have the ability to connect with an inner source to allow us to be a clear, confident decision maker. We have the access to our own GPS, the guidance system that we can turn to and listen to at any given time to help us with the choices guiding us to our purpose with passion.

When we explore our Intuition, letting our inner voice be our guide, automatically we will feel, when a choice we make, is in harmony with our highest good. Learning to pay attention to OUR inner voice, will give us the confidence to make ANY decision that comes about in our life.

We are all given a purpose in this life. This is a purpose that serves our highest good. We are given the true Authentic Self-Confidence to pursue discovering that purpose. When we discover this purpose, we develop a passion and love that fills us from within, no one or anything can give us this from the outside. Unlocking confidence in our decision making is yet another stepping stone in our path to our purpose, passion, and dreams.

Being really clear on what we would love our life to be, making confident decisions from that very place. We must realize, there are many different types of decisions we make in any given day, how those decisions can and will impact our self-confidence giving us a new level of understanding and trust in how making those choices can and will benefit our purpose, passion, and dreams.

We develop an understanding and trust, thus, guiding us to know when we are and we are not operating for our highest good. Discovering two secret keys to getting in touch with our inner voice helping us know with Authentic Self-Confidence, we are making the best possible decision, no matter the situation or circumstance we are facing in that moment.

So, what do we do when we would like a bowl of ice cream? We get up, go to the freezer, grab the container of vanilla, the ice cream scoop, (sometimes) a bowl and a spoon. We are ready to enjoy! We made a decision and took the steps needed to accomplish the goal. That was a simple one, unless of course there was another option of chocolate ice cream in the freezer too, then the decision may have been a bit more challenging. We make decisions every day of our life, some are easy, others more difficult.

We have all found ourselves in situations that we had no clue what to do, what direction to take, or what move to make because we just couldn’t make a decision as to what the best thing to do is/was. We all feel that way at times, when we have options and opportunities before us, and we just don’t know what the right choice would be. We get stuck in the “thinking” about decisions, which keeps us stuck, and not moving forward to our purpose, passion and life we love living. This is NOT the place we would like to stay for any length of time. Instead, we want to connect with the source within us that will help us become a clear, confident decision maker.

As part of the human experience, we all make decisions. Most of the decisions we make are done without thinking about them, they come out of habit, or by default. Some decisions require much more consideration and planning, we debate with ourselves back and forth on what the “right” thing to do is, even turning to others for advice. While in the midst of all of this, there is ONE (GPS) guidance system that we can each turn to at any point and time. When we really listen, it helps us make the choices and decisions that will propel us in the direction of being the person who CAN, DO, and BE whatever we choose.

The key is strengthening our personal relationship with the part of us that already knows ALL THE ANSWERS, our Intuition. When we allow our Inner Voice to guide us, we can sense when a choice or decision is in harmony with our highest good. We become more and more clear on and aware of what the cues are, when we pay attention to them, it will keep us on the path to freedom and happiness in all areas of our life.

There are times that we feel that we haven’t made the best choice or decision… we just need to take a breath, send a kind glance toward that thought, looking at life through a new lens – the lens of clarity and focus in on our inner Self – Intuition – the one who is here to give us the confidence we need to make any choice or decision, whether great or small.

Here is a recap of what I have learned, utilizing myself and in addition want to share with you so you can do the same:

I have the ability to make a snap decision, or a considered decision.
Confidence in decision-making comes with knowing what I really want, and serving it with my time and attention
The most important decision I will make is to decide where inside me I go to make decision that matter to me.
If I make a decision that matters to me, it is okay to get it wrong on the way to getting it right.
No one else can know what my Inner Voice is telling me. Not even a trusted advisor, or someone close to me.
Deep down, there is only one thought that really matters: “I would really LOVE to do this.”
The voice that helps me make decisions about an idea will guide me with either feelings of greater expansion or contraction.
Confidence in my ability to make decisions is something that can absolutely be grown and developed.

There are three things that were suggested that I do to help me become a Clear, Confident Decision Maker:

To consider some decisions I am making and notice the feeling I get while making them. Am I feeling expansion or contraction? What do I sense about those feelings?
When I am making a decision, I lean in to the voice of truth, the part of me that already knows the answer.
Each day, I pay attention when I am making decision and notice if there is a gravitational pull toward the familiar, or a feeling of contraction or one of expansion.

Moving into the final step of Authentic Self-Confidence, Confidence #5 I will be sharing about Freedom From the Opinions of Others. This was a huge one for me. We have built a belief in ourselves, that anytime we face criticism or discouragement from outside sources, we CAN STAND TALL, STRONG and CONFIDENT anyway. This secret formula is something that many powerful people have utilized to GROW their AUTHENTIC Self-Confidence, NOW we are unshackling and developing ours too!

Here’s to listening and hearing our inner voice!!

Holly

I am a Heart Centered Life Coach.

With heart centered life coaching, I believe that everyone has infinite potential to be, do, give and have whatever they desire.

I know that my clients are connected to a power that’s greater than any circumstance or problem they are currently facing, no matter how big those problems may seem, or how long the problem has existed.

I have a fundamental belief in the goodness of people, and I help my clients to get in touch with that goodness, and work with it, to bring forth a life they love living.

I will help you to tap into the wisdom, greatness and infinite potential that is already inside of you. I will do this instead of telling you what you can do and be, who you are, and what you should do.

In our coaching session, you will learn about yourself (as I will learn about you too) and what you want to be, do and give. You will realize that you are more empowered than you’ve ever realized you were and are liberated and set free to live a life you love living.

I have a purpose that inspires me to make the world better.

I believe that people deserve to have the life of their dreams, and that they can create that life.

I believe that everyone is placed on this earth with a divine purpose, and they have a burning passion within them that they may or may not be aware of.

I believe that no matter where we are in our life’s process, we have been given the stepping stones to discover our full potential and purpose, with pure passion.

I understand and believe that there is a power in all of us that is far greater than any circumstance, situation or condition!

I will give you the gift of committing to your vision regardless of conditions, regardless of how impossible it may seem to achieve, giving and empowering you the ability to create the life of your dreams.

I will empower you to open up to infinite possibilities.

I will empower you to tune to the wavelength of possibilities.

I will empower you to make your dream come true.

I will open you up to the possibility of the infinite ways you many not even realize yet. Giving you the gift of brave thinking, which is how extraordinary results are created with unprecedented ease and speed.

YOU inspire me, to EMPOWER YOU, to move forward and towards the results YOU WANT to create YOUR LIFE of unshackled happiness and freedom. To grow where YOU are planted and to BLOOM BEAUTIFULLY!

I AM a Heart Centered Life Coach❣️

Quote• Posted on 01/01/201901/01/2019 by HOLLY STEVENS

Life Coaching

Life Coaching… My WHY for becoming a Certified Life Coach

Posted on 12/08/201806/27/2020 by HOLLY STEVENS

Life Coach my why for becoming a certified life coach

I’ve clarified what is a life coach?

I’ve shared a general prospective about Life Coaching… How does the process work?

Now, I want to share with you MY WHY of becoming a Certified Life Coach.

When I was in high school I had thoughts of being a mental health practitioner, however they were only fleeting thoughts. I began cosmetology school, to be ended by an ATV accident leaving me with medical advice that long hours on my feet and my arms elevated it would not be the career that I would physically be able to do. My heart was shattered in a million pieces. I loved the idea of helping others feel good about themselves and everyone loves getting their hair cut, colored, or done up for a special occasion. It just gives you that little “boost” and I was going to be able to do that for others.

A few years later, I became an advanced EMT and certified fire fighter, continuing on to paramedic school. This was a very fulfilling “duty”. I was helping others, and in some cases, after our job was done could only pray for these individuals not always knowing their final out come. After having my two daughters, choosing to not put myself in harms way, so I could be there for my girls. I was offered an opportunity to continue my education further, becoming a certified Whole Health Counselor. Providing me the ability to be of greater help in understanding and caring for my girls, and extended family members with chronic illnesses.

In 2004 I choose to leave my marriage that I had fought long and hard to keep, and believed in my heart could be made to work for our family’s sake. Ending up with a significant hospital stay due to stress related issues in 2003, marriage counseling, individual counseling, etc. I had to accept that “letting go” was the best and only option. One of the hardest things in life sometimes is letting go of what you feel and believe was the “dream” come true for your family.

I finished my schooling and graduated as a single mom. I spent the next 11 years focused on my priority of raising and advocating for my girls. Working in the health and human services field, and in an agriculture based job as my primary employments and several part-time jobs a long side to make ends meet. I continued keeping up with my whole health research, and continuing education to stay current not to loose what I’d worked hard to accomplish as I felt it was an answer to a prayer. I just wasn’t always sure what I was to do with it, knowing I needed to wait until my girls were graduated from high school before perusing a career change.

I consciously choose to challenge myself to always be the best me/mom I could be in any given moment, in any given circumstance or situation. To always try to be a better me/mom today, than I was yesterday. If that didn’t work out for me on any given day, I knew in my heart that I was doing my best! At the end of the day I “let go”, praying for forgiveness, and the grace to have the opportunity to give it my best shot tomorrow.

NOW! Now is when that answered prayer from many years back, has became VERY CLEAR to me! 15+ years I have had the time to “see” what my life’s journey to this day has been preparing me for, and a moment sooner would have been, a major life detour. During these years of learning and struggle, there has been an intense discovery of my life and purpose. Looking back, all the tears, struggles, doubt, literally screaming “WHY ME”?, hearing and saying “when there is a will, there is a way”, crying myself to sleep at night and more days than not feeling as though I was a failure to myself and my girls. The relationships that didn’t work out, the friendships I’ve been hurt by, the friendships that I have been blessed with, and the knowledge and experience is more than any text book can or ever will provide.

I discovered the Who, What, When, Where, and HOW of ME! I discovered my family of origin issues, faced them, dealt with them for ME, learning it wasn’t because of me it was what they knew best in dealing with situations and it wasn’t my place to take it on and/or fix it. This in turn allowed me to discover the why to my relationship issues, and that I could not rescue, enable, love others to their happiness, nor save them. I discovered that I was more than capable of taking care of myself physically, emotionally, environmentally, and spiritually. I was (am) a good mom and that my choices may not always of been the right ones, but they were the best ones I could make in the given moment. I have raised two amazing daughters, who are very authentic, strong willed, independently interdependent, and successful. They are full of Love, Compassion, Empathy, Care, and capable of conquering anything they set their mind to.

In 2016 post my second daughters high school graduation, I enrolled in my CE classes for whole health counseling. I was offered the opportunity to apply to Life Mastery Institute and was accepted into the Life Coach certification program. I can say I have literally traveled coast to coast to get the signed papers stating that I am educated, qualified, and accredited to provide professional services to and for others. However, the true education comes from the life experience that has been laid before me now behind me to fulfill a God given mission. I take on this mission with much passion, as I have spent my life HELPING others, and I will be the first to admit, it has not always been in the healthy means of helping.

I have learned through my life education, verified through my academic education, that I am here on this earth with a deep passion to EMPOWER others. Providing others with the knowledge, resources, belief and empowerment to be the best they can be in any given moment, circumstance or situation. Resting assured that there is no circumstance nor situation that is greater than themselves!

We can label, name, blame our situations and circumstances that have put us where we are today in this very moment. However, labels can possibly create some understanding as to the how we got here and why we are where we are. Naming can possibly give some clarification. Blaming, truly isn’t an option. Blaming is only displacing the issue that WE HAVE, and in reality we are the ONLY one who has control over the issue. The ONLY reason we Label, Name and Blame, is because we are HURT and uncertain how else to attempt to overcome, get rid of, or move on from an these issues that comes from dealing with others. Weather family, partner, co-workers or friends.

My Life Coaching mission and passion is to EMPOWER others to live A SPLENDID LIFE NOW! Teaching others how to UNSHACKLE their happiness, being happy who they are right now! Utilizing what they have went through or are going through to know they have been planted in the garden of grace and they will bloom! Living from the inside out.

When we live from the inside out, we can live with grace and peace no matter what we face. We allow ourselves to be all that we can be and allow others to do/be the same (in their own garden). We will learn that just because they may have weeds in their garden doesn’t mean they are/can/will plant weeds in ours, nor is it our responsibility to keep the weeds out of theirs. We know we will always have enough grace and peace for ourselves, we will know how to take care of our garden, harvest our supply when we need it, and know there is always more growing. When we take care of what we sow, we will always have a bountiful harvest when we need it.

It is when we become unshackled, we are free to pursue who we really are, what we are truly passionate about, and fulfill our purpose here on earth. After we unshackle ourselves from allowing others to hold the key, we are not always clear what or how we should “move on”. What we are truly capable of. What that looks like, with or without the support of our spouse or family.

I would love to share my garden harvest and my belief in YOU! Teaching and guiding you, empowering you, supporting you, and walking beside you in this journey of discovery. It is with great honor that I have been gifted this journey in life, and it would be of great honor to walk along side of you guiding you in your unleashing/unshackling process. Email me I would love to hear from you!!

If you would like, I would love to share 30 minutes with you unshackling, shoot me an email and we will set up a time that works for you!!

Here’s to UNSHACKLED HAPPINESS!!

Holly

Life Coaching

Life Coach? what is a life coach?

Posted on 12/02/201806/29/2020 by HOLLY STEVENS

life coaching what is a life coach

Life Coaching… What is a Life Coach?

A life coach is a professional mentor who helps you to:

Identify the dreams and desires that are aligned with your soul’s purpose, and that will make you feel authentically happy and fulfilled.
Remove the mindsets, habits and other obstacles that hold you back from activating and realizing those dreams.
Create a plan to turn your dreams into reality.
Take consistent, productive action on that plan, improve the plan when necessary, and overcome any setbacks or obstacles that appear along the way.
Master Invisible Laws of Success, so that reaching your goals becomes practically inevitable.

A life coach is someone who finds joy in using their gifts to help people create the lives of their dreams. Your life coach is the light that helps you see the answers you already have inside yourself and find the courage to pursue those answers, even when your circumstances tell you to just give up.

Life Coaching… What it is NOT!

A life coach is NOT like a Self-Help Book!

Self-help books often offer a one-size-fits-all solution. Even if they do allow some wiggle room for people to implement their teachings in a way that fits their personality and life, very few of them effectively help their readers implement the process in a way that creates real change. Self-help books become ‘shelf-help’: things that people read, are impressed by, use just a little bit, and them put away on the shelf without ever fully applying the tactic or strategies to their lives.

Even if people DO use their teachings, many books also fail to guide their readers through the process of coping with the old wounds and new obstacles that inevitably arise when a person attempts to change the status quo.

The ego and mind seldom allows the familiar to change without a fight, so life coaches provide their clients with ongoing support and tools to prevent them from slipping back into their old patterns, and to help them through the sometimes frightening transition from who they are right now to who they want to be.

A life coach is NOT a Therapist!

Therapy emphasizes getting people to talk about their problems, repeatedly bringing their focus back to their wounds, and trying to heal them. It doesn’t usually teach them how to stop the behavior that leads to those wounds, and to attract the life they want to live instead.

Life coaches help people understand why they went through the pain that they did, why they’re still suffering, and why the same bad things keep showing up in their lives, but they DON’T focus on the wounds. Instead, they help their clients heal their emotional scars, regain faith in themselves, in the world, and change the habits and mindsets that have continued to attract that pain over and over again.

A life coach is NOT a Psychologist!

While both professions help people understand the human mind, life coaches go far beyond that. We use our understanding of the mind to unleash our clients’ inner power and creativity, to help them tap into wisdom that they didn’t know they had, and to turn their minds into powerful magnets that attract the people and circumstances they want, with far less time and effort on their part than conventional thinking would believe possible.

As Henry David Thoreau once wrote:

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”

We understand that the human mind works in conjunction with powerful and universal laws, and these laws govern whether you’ll succeed in any area of your life. Because of this, it is vital to know how to make your mind work in your favor, and life coaches show their clients how.