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Unexpected things happen, have Gratitude!

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

My life plans changed, a fork in the road I was avoiding. I saw and acknowledged it; the warning signs were there! Plan “B” was in place. However, there wasn’t a plan “B” exit.

I continually strive to live above the line with integrity, honesty, and transparency. I believed that could and would be enough. Then the ‘unexpected’ opposing stronghold began challenging my well-being; I have chosen to STOP, CHALLENGE, and CHOOSE.

I genuinely am grateful for the obstacles blocking plan “B.” I believe had plan “B” had a distinguished well, marked exit, I would have continued to blow right past it. I am ready to take my power for MY LIFE, living MY PURPOSE, ON PURPOSE, with the passion I have been created to have.

Sometimes we get squandered and don’t even realize it, and we go through the survival motions and just exist. I will admit that I am embarrassed with the “wake-up” call it took for me. The awareness, the growth, and the changes it is forcing me to make are definitely changing the trajectory of my life. Showing me the value of myself and those who genuinely care for and about me.

When we choose to not reach out to our real tribe. When we decide to try and handle things on our own because we are embarrassed, feel weak, or unworthy, we come to a place in our journey going backward.

There is no such thing as just maintaining. We are beings of energy, and energy is in constant motion. Forward or backward, positive or negative. When the universe wants or needs us to MOVE, we will be given what it takes to make it happen. Be it a nudge or a slap of reality that can lead to embarrassment if need be. It will happen!

On July 7th, 2022, that is precisely what happened to me. A big ole’ slap of uncomfortable reality. That I am and will be forever grateful for. It is not something I wish upon anyone, and it is not easy to deal with or face. However, it was something done TO ME. It was a negative choice of another human being. How I choose to respond is how I choose to let it affect me.

I am worthy of my rights and my boundaries. I am worthy of justice for my rights and my limits. Moreover, I am worthy of the lesson and the growth from the situation. I am worthy of self-love and receiving genuine love from others. Love is not earned; love is given.

As I go through this transformation in my life, I am grateful for the tools I have available to me. As the ugliness of the situation comes about, so does my ability to STOP my thoughts, CHALLENGE those thoughts, and CHOOSE how I want to respond to MY THOUGHTS that I have 100% control of. I stay conscious of my ability and power to STOP, CHALLENGE, and CHOOSE MY response to ALL THINGS.

What have I learned thus far? I have a voice. I have a right to be heard when it comes to my well-being. I do NOT have to “abide and provide” I am created to Enhance and Empower those put on my path in my life. Life is a journey, not a destination. People and things change; we must choose to GROW with life.

I am grateful for everyone in my life, whatever season I may spend with them. Some will stay, some will go; I CHOOSE to GROW. I CHOOSE to MOVE FORWARD for the greater good. This detour in my journey is a tough one. I have immense gratitude for my faith, my program, my tribe, and my strength to use as a springboard to share my story to allow others to know they do not have to go it alone!

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Center of Balance

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

First, stand in front of a mirror, feet together, and hold your arms level with your shoulders. What do you see as a replica? What exactly is halfway between your hands? Now bring each hand, placing it in the middle, over your heart, and close your eyes; what do you feel? Now take a DEEP BREATH, let it out, and do it again; what do you feel?

We take for granted that we are not in control of our heart beating and lungs breathing, and we have control over creating balance, and balance is all about CENTERING.

Centering your Balance

Creating a centered life balance begins with YOU living from YOUR CENTER.

This can look different for each of us. So many times, we want to excuse our challenges because of our upbringing, family influences, or just not knowing anything other. However, we are each UNIQUE individuals with our OWN hearts, mind, and soul, and this is how we have been intentionally created. We are designed to be who WE ARE as individuals with our OWN morals, values, and purpose.

We live with internal chaos when we reason with or excuse our challenges. In the diagram above, we can see the 5 areas of life we are responsible for in our individuality. Physical. Emotional. Spiritual. Nutritional. Environmental.

Our primary focus is on how we look physically. What our mindset is, what we eat, where we live and work, and then when we have time, we will consider the effects these have on us as the person we are. As you can see, this type of focus will eventually cancel out the “who we individually are” or, as some say, the “I AM.” Our identity becomes our family, community, work, and social circles; we blend into general society and get lost in the world.

We know we don’t feel “good”; however, we doubt that we feel “bad.” We just exist. We either dismiss the challenges and co-exist, or we believe it is okay because that is what we know as “okay.” We either have to lose something or someone of significance, or we hit our “rock bottom” knowing there’s something better and seek it out.

I have learned that those who choose to seek and understand living in balance seek it from their core center. Wanting to grow and be all they are created to be, living on purpose with purpose. Others are just okay living in their self-perceived comfort zone, and that’s okay too. There isn’t a parallel for these two types of individuals to even sit on the same teeter-totter in the same playground of life.

Those who desire to live a centered and balanced life have to choose to “seek” themselves first. Recognize there is a power greater than themselves breathing them. Choosing to look inside, feel from the inside and identify their core morals and values, live with integrity, identify their purpose, and live on purpose with genuine passion from their heart. We must seek ourselves first by glancing at our family of origin, our upbringing, the patterns, the cycles, and the “traditions.” Decern what fits us and what does not.

When we choose to decern WHO WE ARE from the CORE of our INDIVIDUAL being, we can UNshackle our health, UNshackle our love, UNshackle our happiness, and choose to live A Splendid Life NOW! being empowered and living from integrity.

We can start where we are, with what we have at this very moment. We can physically re-set our bodies to function the way it is created to work, correcting and healing from the inside out. We can recognize our mindset, increase our Emotional Intelligence love ourselves and others for exactly who we are. We can feed our body the food it needs to be healthy and “feed” our brain. (side note: did you know we consume enough preservatives to embalm ourselves SEVEN times during our lifetime? — YUCK– think about this a minute… how do you think this affects our brain?) We can influence our surrounding and environmental energies — remember science class back in the day, EVERYTHING is ENERGY. EVERYTHING has a positive and negative charge to be created or living — This is integral to our living and working environments. This is integral to our thinking and thought process.

Our Spiritual well-being can be identified in many different ways. We can not create our own heartbeat, nor can we give ourselves constant CPR to breathe. We must have a WHY! We must make a choice! We must be centered to live an unshackled and balanced life. Life is a process; we must choose to do our part and trust it.

Creating a centered life balance begins with YOU living from YOUR CORE CENTER.

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Confidence #3

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

Hold up your head! You were not made for failure. You were made for VICTORY! Go forward with a joyful confidence.

George Eliot

Are you feeling ready to befriend the fears that are holding you back? Are you ready to allow those fears to be stepping stones in your journey of passion and purpose in your life now?

We have all had failures in our journey this far in life, and if you haven’t well… I’m afraid life is passing you by. Those failures we’ve had, do not make any of us failures! So on the contrary – we can actually utilize our failures, and all the obstacles that have been in our way have been there to BUILD our Self-Confidence. We need to identify the gift of growth each failure has blessed us with.

There is a POWER within each of us that is GREATER than ANYTHING we have gone through, or will ever go through. As we’ve discovered, we have ALL experienced failure, that my friend, is what allows us to be HUMAN. We don’t get it ‘right’ every time, that is impossible, when we do fail, we can see and use the OPPORTUNITY to gain wisdom, understanding, growth and strength.

From the moment we were born into this life, we have faced and overcame obstacles! As I have mentioned in Confidence #2 post, we had to rely on the infinite to get us around one of our very first obstacles, communication of getting our basic needs met. Being fed, diaper changed, letting our caregiver know that we are uncomfortable. We learned to fall asleep on our own, learning to sit up, crawl, walk, talk, to tying our shoes. We’ve all put our shirt on backwards, or inside out while learning to dress ourselves. We’ve all put our shoes on the wrong feet. To a young adult learning to read a map, taking the wrong turn, or even running out of gas when we were learning to become a responsible {Response-Able} adult. Generally there was never a second thought that these were failures or that we were a failure because of them. It’s OKAY that we made mistakes along the way.

Nobody ever likes to “get it wrong.” Messing up is not fun, it can cause headaches, heartaches, and stress. There may have been a mistake so painful that we have choose to try to not ever think about it again, yet it replays again and again in our minds. Sometimes even unconsciously. Over time, (sometimes days, sometimes years) our self-confidence dissipates, and we give up because we feel as though we will never “get it right,” thinking what’s the use? There is indeed a useful part of failure – every perceived failure has a seed of success planted within it. We MUST be willing to look for it. We have to understand and trust that it is okay to get it wrong along the path to getting it right.

Whether we have had a bunch of little failures that keep adding up, or we feel like we have failed significantly… we have had failures, however, we are NOT a failure. “Failure” is just simply a meaning that we have placed on a situation that we have had. When we put it into reality, we have the POWER within us to re-frame any experience to serve us and grant us self-confidence, opposed to tearing us down. Every time something doesn’t work out or go the way we had visioned, leads us to trying it again, another way, until it does work — that my friend is simply the BLESSING and GIFT OF GROWTH! This is another part of gaining wisdom.

The expansive feeling of growing and expanding through failure, understanding and knowing that we do NOT ALWAYS have to “get it right” or be perfect. If we choose to reflect on a particular circumstance that did not turn out the way we had hoped or wanted it to, we can recognize that we are MORE than that event or circumstance. We have gained wisdom…

OK, now, take a deep breath and hear what I am about to say… you may feel discouraged and even worried that thinking about failures will only cause more feelings of failure. We DON’T stay there, we DON’T focus on the failure, we acknowledge it and we set it aside. Remember, this is about BUILDING SELF-CONFIDENCE and learning how the Power within us is greater than ANYTHING we have gone through or will ever go through.

Be GRATEFUL for this (failure) experience to learn, for it is the seed that was planted. Now, just be still, see, and even listen all while being open to the growth of your Self-Confidence.

Here is a recap of what I have learned, utilizing myself and in addition want to share with you:

  • I have had failure, that does NOT make me a failure, failure does NOT have me. I AM more than ANY failure I have ever had!
  • EVERY failure has within it, a seed of greater benefit.
  • I can set down any ideas I’ve had about failure, and be GRATEFUL for yet another learning, growing, strengthening day in my life.
  • Failure is simply another opportunity for me to learn.
  • Learning is done through trial and error, I started learning that way from day one of my life, it is still the same today – getting it right and getting it wrong, figuring it out as I go.
  • The learning through success is EQUAL to learning from failure. BOTH inform us. BOTH guide us. BOTH make us MORE of who we are capable of being!
  • NO ONE is exempt from failure. Everyone of us has experienced it in one form or another. It is simply part of being HUMAN!
  • As children, it was taken for granted that we could and should make mistakes, as adult bodies, we have adopted the thinking that we should get it right all the time.
  • Some of the most accomplished individuals, had some of the most massive failures, however, they DID NOT GIVE UP!

Here are three things that have been suggested I do on a continual basis, reminding me that obstacles are opportunities:

  1. Writing out in my journal at least 10 successes that I have had in life, beginning as early as learning to walk, and tie my shoes.
  2. Keep this affirmation in front of me: “it is OKAY to get it wrong on the way to getting it right.
  3. When ever something does not go as I had planned, I CAN neutralize it by realizing that it is simply SOMETHING that happened.

The next step I will share with you in Confidence #4 post is Clear, Confident Decision Maker. Now that we have connected with the part of us that puts fear and failure in to it’s proper perspective, we are moving into Clear, Confident Decision Making. Here we will have a simple yet powerful strategy for helping to make decisions that are in service to the highest good. We have used this skill many of times, not even realizing it, the good news is, we will now know what it really is, developing it and strengthening it. Just a little secret I want to share with you… it only takes a bit of practice!

Here’s to GROWING and STRENGTHENING our AUTHENTIC Self-Confidence, with wisdom, power, passion, and purpose!!

Holly

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Confidence #2

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage and confidence in the doing.

Theodore Roosevelt

Now that we are clear about what True Authentic Self-Confidence is, and what it is not, and where it comes from… We have came to the understanding that we all, at times, feel a lack of Confidence when we try something new. Fear can cause us to stop moving forward, however, we can have fear WITHOUT fear having us! Confidence is not the absence of fear – it is continuing to grow and move forward despite the fear. We can grow and strengthen our confidence muscles by doing things that scare us. And we can also learn to step into fear, and actually befriend it.

When we come to the understanding of what fear really is, and what confidence really is, we acquire a new strength that overcomes doubts and worries. These are the doubts and worries that have kept us stuck in our current circumstances. Knowing confidence is NOT the absences of fear. Self-Confidence is growing and moving PAST FEAR, and towards our calling from the Infinite.

When we take a moment looking back over our lives, we can all recall a time or two that we had and felt a big sense of accomplishment, all because we took that risk, and we SUCCEEDED! Taking action is sometimes the greatest satisfaction, especially when we are doing it afraid. Fear is a real part of life. No one doesn’t face fear in their life. We must understand, fear is not just a phobia of spiders, snakes, bugs, etc. Fear can show itself in fear of heights, confined spaces, being in front of people, or even driving on an unknown road. The fear we experience most of the time is much more subtle, and steals our confidence, sometimes we aren’t even fully aware of it, keeping us stuck. It causes us to question ourselves, thoughts of “what if I’m not good enough?”, “What if I don’t like what I learn about myself?”, “what if others don’t agree?”, “Is this really even possible?”. We MUST REMEMBER we are NOT ALONE feeling this way.

As we pursue our passion and purpose in our life, longing to live a life we love living, we will encounter new territory – new people, new places, different ‘things’ we have never experienced before. This can make us feel afraid to take the next step. The TRUTH is, we ALL feel a lack of confidence when trying something new. Fear creates a physical and emotional response, these responses can cause us to stop moving forward, and unfortunately, UP UNTIL NOW, we have let them. Now that we have a better understanding of Self-Confidence, that it is our connection to the Infinite, and that is where we KNOW we have CONFIDENCE already WITHIN US, we can befriend fear, move beyond it and continue moving forward with passion and purpose. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN US HAVING FEAR, AND FEAR HAVING US!

This my friends is how we GROW CONFIDENCE muscles! We do the things that scare us. Continually pushing through challenges. By doing so, leading us to a higher version of our SELF. When we step into our greatness, we will undoubtedly have fear, however, we CAN make friends with that fear, creating another stepping stone in our path, or brick in our foundation. The One breathing us will ALWAYS help us find the confidence and courage when WE SEEK IT.

Here is a recap of what I have learned, utilizing myself and in addition want to share with you so you can do the same:

  • I grow MY CONFIDENCE by feeding MY FAITH and starving my fear.
  • The voice of fear is ALWAYS the voice of contraction, living a smaller version of myself.
  • Knowing and believing that Confidence is my birthright.
  • To pursue my purpose and passion, is not only reaching for the goal, it is achieving strength in my confidence.
  • I can feel the fear and do it anyway!
  • Fear is in the future. Doubt is from the past. Worry is the misuse of my imagination. CONFIDENCE IS IN ME ALWAYS!
  • Fear is actually the border of the reality that I know.
  • With my growing, expanding confidence, I have learned the difference between having fear and fear having me.
  • I must be aware that fear speaks through distraction, dissuasion and distress.
  • Fear is my companion as I grow, and I CAN make friends with that voice of fear!

There are a couple of things that were suggested that I do when I feel that fear is “moving in”

  1. Write down my fear thoughts, and ask myself “Is that actually happening RIGHT NOW?”
  2. Engage with gratitude! Which choices can I be grateful for in THIS MOMENT?

The next step I will share with you in Confidence #3 post is Turning Obstacles into Opportunities. Now that we have identified, and know the true source of our Authentic Self-Confidence and that fear has absolutely no hold on us. Ask yourself this question: WHAT IF there is a way of taking our EXPERIENCE of “failure”, use it for growth and expansion of confidence, to pursue our purpose and passion? Failure is nothing to be ashamed of, failure is nothing less than a stepping stone, (were you a failure every time you fell down when you were learning to walk? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!) We can be inspired by some of the most famous failure-to-success stories out there…

Here’s to learning to FEED OUR FAITH, and starve our fear!!

Holly

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Confidence #1

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

If one advances Confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he’ll meet with a success unexpected in common hours.

~Henry David Thoreau

Connecting with your TRUE SELF, this is your internal power connecting with the Infinite. The Infinite gives us Confidence, because it IS Confidence. When open to this connection with the Infinite, we are able to expand our personal awareness and experience our TRUE SELF, living a life of TRUE LOVE.

Knowing that Authentic Self-Confidence is our birthright, because we are alive and breathing, creates a deserving of Confidence. We deserve to be empowered to speak and act on our TRUE SELF. Having trust in ourselves. Doubts may came up, we recognize them and let them go. We can take a deep breath and remain in our calm, and open state of mind. When we trust the Infinite, we trust ourselves.

Something to remember: We do NOT generate our Self-Confidence, we draw from our Authentic Self-Confidence.

Thinking back to your childhood, what did you want to be when you grew up? Do you recall what it was? How about after graduating from high school – was there a passion for career plans? Did you ever pursue that dream? Or as for many of us grown-ups, did your confidence in those ideas just fade away as did the time? As the time goes by, it seems our ability to dream and have belief in ourselves can just dwindle away. It is natural in the human realm of life for outside forces to stop us from doing what we would love to do, or to be doing. UNLESS we choose to awaken our TRUE SELF, discovering that we have the confidence inside ourselves that is unshakable, because it is in our very DNA. So, you may ask, if confidence is IN us, how do we access it?

Let’s start here, with another common questions: What exactly is self-confidence and self-image?

For many of us, self-confidence and our self-image is formed by outside influences – such as our parents, our school teachers, even people in popular culture have trained us to “think” we have to live our lives a particular way, behave or act in a certain way, or even try to look a certain way. Maybe unskilled (possibly doing the best they knew at the time) made insensitive comments when we went out on our own or tried something different, harmed our confidence, allowing us to settle, and go on feeling unworthy to live the life we were dreaming of and meant to live. We need to know in our minds and our hearts that deep down there is MORE IN US! something GREATER, something that IS full of the confidence we’ve been freely given and we deserve. Deep down, OUR SPIRIT is calling us, desiring us to realize that WE ARE CAPABLE of MORE, simply because WE ARE MORE!

Whatever you choose to call it – Spirit, Source, Being, or simply Self. Whatever its name, the internal power is in connection with the Infinite, the Infinite breaths us, and beats our hearts the Infinite provides our unending supply of confidence, because it IS CONFIDENCE. We just have to be open to connecting with the Infinite in a way that will expand our awareness, that we may experience the life we desire.

We are DESERVING of Authentic Self-Confidence, it is our BIRTHRIGHT! simply by virtue of being born and alive. When we draw from this self-confidence we feel safe to speak and act on OUR truth, no one is entitled to override this, not even ourselves. This is a deep sense of trust in our SELF, then by extension, the world. Restoring the trust in ourselves allows us to be still within our self, listen from within our self, and give our self permission to be quiet and be connected with the Infinite to know and share our TRUE SELF.

Something to remember: We are ALL brought into this world in the same way, we are each a blessing born! We had only the Infinite to trust to “interpret” our communication to our caregiver getting our basic needs met… when we were hungry, “I am hungry” cry. When we were wet, “My diaper needs changed” cry, something is uncomfortable, “I’m not feeling good” cry. We trusted, as we knew no other way, it was our only option. As we’ve grown, we received grace from our caregivers as we learned to crawl then walk and talk with many ups and downs. Then as we got older, that trust was channeled to our earthly ways, our earthly understandings, we became molded to our earthly mind generating our confidence, not drawing from our confidence we have already been given.

Here is a recap of what I have learned, utilizing myself and in addition want to share with you:

Confidence is NOT based in our behavior, past, talents or IQ!

Confidence IS based in knowing and trusting there IS a power within US that gives us life!

We are human, and we are NOT able to feel 100% confident 100% of the time!

Everyone of us feels less confident at times than we want to.

So this is when we need to “borrow” confidence and strength from another. I have been so blessed and fortunate to have people in my life that I’ve been able to do just that “borrow” their confidence in ME providing the strength to re-connected to my Infinite. I LOVE to pay-it-forward, giving to others what has been given to me!

Our Spiritual DNA is PERFECT, and inside of that spiritual DNA is PERFECT CONFIDENCE!

We have to CHOOSE to re-access the confidence we were born with. Confidence has already been GIVEN to us, as our BIRTHRIGHT. In the unconscious detour in life, We were NOT meant to “generate” confidence making an ego that gets in our way creating a dead end on our detour.

Our longing for a greater confidence is actually the echo of the very Power breathing us, and beating our hearts.

Confidence comes from a source INSIDE us that is GREATER than any opinion and much STRONGER than any circumstance or situation.

Knowing and trusting your AUTHENTIC self that YOU are doing YOUR BEST in ANY moment, circumstance, or situation. (I know and trust that I can consciously “check in” with myself accepting that I am NOT perfect, but the perfect moment is present to be, and do MY BEST!)

No one else is you. No one else cares exactly the way you care. No one else is wired exactly the way you are wired. YOU ARE UNIQUE!

Unshackling an unshakable confidence helps us to overcome difficulties and master fears!

Our body is a GIFT, regardless of the opinions we or others have had about it’s size, it’s shape, it’s color, or it’s beingness.

Opinion is NOT truth!

Most of the time everyone has an opinion, that is just what it is, an opinion. The ONLY opinion we need to be concerned with is OUR opinion that comes FROM WITHIN our CORE AUTHENTIC TRUE SELF!

There are three things that have been asked of me to do on a continual basis, reminding me of MY AUTHENTIC TRUE SELF, that NO ONE else can do FOR ME:

  1. Make a list of my successes and recall the feelings I FELT with each of the achievements.
  2. Look myself in the mirror, reminding myself WHO I AM, and the POWER that is IN ME, that I have been blessed with as MY BIRTHRIGHT.
  3. To use the words “up until now” when remembering or recalling ANY negative comments, opinions, situations, circumstances that I or others have related to ME.

The next step I will share with you in Confidence #2 post is Feeling the Fear and Doing it Anyway. Realizing when we feel afraid of something, we are NOT alone. The Power inside of us is willing to empower, participate, and encourage us EVERY STEP OF THE WAY! as we face that fear and befriend it, we MUST remember that it was ONLY UP UNTIL NOW that it may attempt to hold us back. Exposing the symptoms of fear, makes it loose its effectiveness. I have learned one very significant step that I have taken to redirect my fear into my personal power. I am so blessed to share with you my journey to Authentic Self-Confidence.

To Your Authentic Core Self, having Authentic Self-Confidence,

Holly

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Authentic Self-Confidence

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

Where does your feeling of confidence come from? The ring on your finger? the vehicle you drive? your job title? your education? your parents/children status/success? the physical possessions you have? where you live? your community status quo?

OR

Does your confidence come from within YOU? Knowing your physical being is in regular close connection with your spiritual being. Understanding your purpose in life. Knowing who you are in confidence, enabling you to overcome fears, learn from failures and make important decisions along the way to creating a life you love living. You understand your DNA of Authentic Self-Confidence, and know the truth of who you are, feeling comfortable and at ease in all areas of your life, no matter what.

In society today, it appears as though there is a misconception of true authentic self-confidence and living from an external ego. Keeping up with the latest and greatest technology for our kids and ourselves to be {the new} social. I’m not referring to the need for technology for academics and work. Having the latest and greatest social apps so that we can communicate 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Without eye contact, body language, and not knowing how to act when “in true person”. Posting pictures that are ‘photo shopped’ and hoping to not ever have to show our real, true self because we could never match up to the techno version we’ve created and put out there… However, that “gap” WILL catch us, and we won’t/can’t ever match up to the electronic version, whether we are aware of it, consciously or unconsciously it is riding on and in us. In turn causing us to live in an ego and defensive based world for ourselves, running from ourselves or maybe even trying to catch ourselves. This creates a double battle within ourselves 24 hours a day 7 days a week…

As my Mentors and Life Coaches have shared with me… I would like to share with you:

Some days we feel like we are on top of and can conquer the world! Other days, we don’t even want to get out of bed. We’ve all felt that way before. What is the difference between those kind of days? Quite often, it is the degree of self-confidence we are feeling at that time. There are many variables that can affect the way we feel about ourselves and our ability to do the things we want to do. It can be as simple as a ‘bad hair day’ or as tough as ‘feeling the pressure’ of living up to others expectations and/or the expectations we’ve put out there ourselves. There is a way to keep those outside influences from impacting our self-image and self confidence. We can have more days we feel powerful and unstoppable from within ourselves. We CAN live with AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE empowering ourselves to love life, and love living life.

As I have been taught not only by my teachers, mentors, coaches, but through the hard knocks of life… the TRUTH is; we are spiritual beings having a human experience. It is part of life, that someone will say something insensitive to us that hurts our feelings or embarrasses us. The natural human response is to feel slighted or possibly deeply hurt. It can sometimes snowball as those unkind words play on repeat in our own mind, developing other not so pleasant thinking about ourselves, tearing on our self-esteem. Our self-image can also be affected by the perceptions we have that came from experiences in our childhood, both positive and negative. The key is: not to allow criticism or shame to become a part of our belief about ourselves. The way to do that is to know who we are at our core, living from our core as often as possible, letting it become our pervasive thought process. It is connecting with our inner being, the Infinite side of us, always knowing we are truly more than any situation, circumstance or condition that we encounter. Living the absolute best we can, in any given moment, no matter what is coming AT us. Remembering, a boat can’t sink, unless the water gets inside.

Allowing our physical being to be in close connection with our spiritual being, we then better understand our purpose in life. Authentically knowing who we are, builds confidence, empowering us to overcome fears, learn from failures and make important decisions all while allowing us to love life, and love the life we are living. When we understand the DNA of Authentic Self-Confidence, knowing the truth of who we are, we can feel comfortable, and authentically self-confident in all areas of our life, no matter what is coming at us.

When we commit to taking time to connect with the Power breathing us each and everyday, we will see and feel more than enough authentic confidence to look fear in the face and do nothing less than become friends with it. We must always know that fear doesn’t mean we can’t, it only means we haven’t. Confidence comes only after we choose to do what we were once afraid to do.

Self-Confidence grows from the seeds planted and harvested of overcoming challenges and failures, turning obstacles into opportunities. We must accept and be empowered by defeat, without being defeated. Failure is nothing more than feedback, it is actually showing us there is another way to do things.

As we make a daily decision to take action, building our Authentic Self-Confidence, we will realize Confidence is a choice. We have supreme authority over our OWN DECISIONS. We have dominion over our OWN THOUGHTS. Our THOUGHTS affect our FEELINGS, and in turn our ACTIONS, creating our RESULTS. We are responsible and ‘RESPONSE – ABLE’ for every single thought we think, and move we make. We can be the CLEAR, CONFIDENT decision maker, WHEN we realize that Authentic Self-Confidence is the trait that turns thoughts into action leading to the results we want! Confidently knowing there are no ‘short-cuts’, doing confidently what we must do for ourselves, no matter what anyone else thinks, To be the best we can be, creating the authentic life we want.

You absolutely can grow Authentic Self-Confidence! All that is required is that you pay attention to YOUR ‘Inner Voice’. It all begins on the inside – inside of YOU!

How do you do that? you may ask, just as I was given the opportunity to do, first creating an understanding of what Authentic Self-Confidence is and is not. I will be sharing what I have learned in the next five post about:

  • What I have learned regarding the truth about the source of where self confidence comes from. Discovering what Confidence is, and is not. How to respond when Self-confidence takes a “hit”, allowing it to propel me towards a loving life, rather than to derail.
  • Stepping out of the comfort zone, doing it with confidence. Allowing authentic Confidence to overcome the fears that used to get in the way.
  • Changing perspective on failures in the past, present, and future. No one gets through this life without {experiencing} failure, and it is how I choose to respond to the circumstances that makes the difference in life.
  • I have been taught what the key is to making any important decision. I have made the most important decision I have ever made, with learning a new understanding to help me make any choice in the future with clarity and confidence.
  • This has brought me back full circle to the core of my Self-Confidence, and knowing that my Authentic Self is NOT made by the opinions of others, rather from the inside out of ME. I have been given a secret formula I’ve implemented into my life that some of the world’s most famous people have used to create immense success in their lives and businesses.

I look forward to continuing my journey into greater Authentic Self-confidence and sharing these skills and outcomes with you. I have been blessed with many failures in my life that have created stepping stones for me, however, at the time I could not imagine those failures as blessings. I have been blessed with amazing mentors, coaches, therapist, pastors, friends, confidantes, and many others too, who have helped me recognize the stepping stones, lay them in the correct path, to building the foundation to MY Authentic Core Self, creating Authentic Self-Confidence. It is only through what I have been given, that I am able to give, and I have a great desire to give to others what I have been blessed with…

To Your Authentic Core Self, having Authentic Self-Confidence

Holly

I am a Heart Centered Life Coach.

With heart centered life coaching, I believe that everyone has infinite potential to be, do, give and have whatever they desire.

I know that my clients are connected to a power that’s greater than any circumstance or problem they are currently facing, no matter how big those problems may seem, or how long the problem has existed.

I have a fundamental belief in the goodness of people, and I help my clients to get in touch with that goodness, and work with it, to bring forth a life they love living.

I will help you to tap into the wisdom, greatness and infinite potential that is already inside of you. I will do this instead of telling you what you can do and be, who you are, and what you should do.

In our coaching session, you will learn about yourself (as I will learn about you too) and what you want to be, do and give. You will realize that you are more empowered than you’ve ever realized you were and are liberated and set free to live a life you love living.

I have a purpose that inspires me to make the world better.

I believe that people deserve to have the life of their dreams, and that they can create that life.

I believe that everyone is placed on this earth with a divine purpose, and they have a burning passion within them that they may or may not be aware of.

I believe that no matter where we are in our life’s process, we have been given the stepping stones to discover our full potential and purpose, with pure passion.

I understand and believe that there is a power in all of us that is far greater than any circumstance, situation or condition!

I will give you the gift of committing to your vision regardless of conditions, regardless of how impossible it may seem to achieve, giving and empowering you the ability to create the life of your dreams.

I will empower you to open up to infinite possibilities.

I will empower you to tune to the wavelength of possibilities.

I will empower you to make your dream come true.

I will open you up to the possibility of the infinite ways you many not even realize yet. Giving you the gift of brave thinking, which is how extraordinary results are created with unprecedented ease and speed.

YOU inspire me, to EMPOWER YOU, to move forward and towards the results YOU WANT to create YOUR LIFE of unshackled happiness and freedom. To grow where YOU are planted and to BLOOM BEAUTIFULLY!

I AM a Heart Centered Life Coach❣️

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Posted in Life Coaching

Life Coaching… My WHY for becoming a Certified Life Coach

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

Life Coach my why for becoming a certified life coach

I’ve clarified  what is a life coach?

I’ve shared a general prospective about Life Coaching… How does the process work?

Now, I want to share with you MY WHY of becoming a Certified Life Coach.

When I was in high school I had thoughts of being a mental health practitioner, however they were only fleeting thoughts. I began cosmetology school, to be ended by an ATV accident leaving me with medical advice that long hours on my feet and my arms elevated it would not be the career that I would physically be able to do. My heart was shattered in a million pieces. I loved the idea of helping others feel good about themselves and everyone loves getting their hair cut, colored, or done up for a special occasion. It just gives you that little “boost” and I was going to be able to do that for others.

A few years later, I became an advanced EMT and certified fire fighter, continuing on to paramedic school. This was a very fulfilling “duty”. I was helping others, and in some cases, after our job was done could only pray for these individuals not always knowing their final out come. After having my two daughters, choosing to not put myself in harms way, so I could be there for my girls. I was offered an opportunity to continue my education further, becoming a certified Whole Health Counselor. Providing me the ability to be of greater help in understanding and caring for my girls, and extended family members with chronic illnesses.

In 2004 I choose to leave my marriage that I had fought long and hard to keep, and believed in my heart could be made to work for our family’s sake. Ending up with a significant hospital stay due to stress related issues in 2003, marriage counseling, individual counseling, etc. I had to accept that “letting go” was the best and only option. One of the hardest things in life sometimes is letting go of what you feel and believe was the “dream” come true for your family.

I finished my schooling and graduated as a single mom. I spent the next 11 years focused on my priority of raising and advocating for my girls. Working in the health and human services field, and in an agriculture based job as my primary employments and several part-time jobs a long side to make ends meet. I continued keeping up with my whole health research, and continuing education to stay current not to loose what I’d worked hard to accomplish as I felt it was an answer to a prayer. I just wasn’t always sure what I was to do with it, knowing I needed to wait until my girls were graduated from high school before perusing a career change.

I consciously choose to challenge myself to always be the best me/mom I could be in any given moment, in any given circumstance or situation. To always try to be a better me/mom today, than I was yesterday. If that didn’t work out for me on any given day, I knew in my heart that I was doing my best! At the end of the day I “let go”, praying for forgiveness, and the grace to have the opportunity to give it my best shot tomorrow.

NOW! Now is when that answered prayer from many years back, has became VERY CLEAR to me! 15+ years I have had the time to “see” what my life’s journey to this day has been preparing me for, and a moment sooner would have been, a major life detour. During these years of learning and struggle, there has been an intense discovery of my life and purpose. Looking back, all the tears, struggles, doubt, literally screaming “WHY ME”?, hearing and saying “when there is a will, there is a way”, crying myself to sleep at night and more days than not feeling as though I was a failure to myself and my girls. The relationships that didn’t work out, the friendships I’ve been hurt by, the friendships that I have been blessed with, and the knowledge and experience is more than any text book can or ever will provide.

I discovered the Who, What, When, Where, and HOW of ME! I discovered my family of origin issues, faced them, dealt with them for ME, learning it wasn’t because of me it was what they knew best in dealing with situations and it wasn’t my place to take it on and/or fix it. This in turn allowed me to discover the why to my relationship issues, and that I could not rescue, enable, love others to their happiness, nor save them. I discovered that I was more than capable of taking care of myself physically, emotionally, environmentally, and spiritually. I was (am) a good mom and that my choices may not always of been the right ones, but they were the best ones I could make in the given moment. I have raised two amazing daughters, who are very authentic, strong willed, independently interdependent, and successful. They are full of Love, Compassion, Empathy, Care, and capable of conquering anything they set their mind to.

In 2016 post my second daughters high school graduation, I enrolled in my CE classes for whole health counseling. I was offered the opportunity to apply to Life Mastery Institute and was accepted into the Life Coach certification program. I can say I have literally traveled coast to coast to get the signed papers stating that I am educated, qualified, and accredited to provide professional services to and for others. However, the true education comes from the life experience that has been laid before me now behind me to fulfill a God given mission. I take on this mission with much passion, as I have spent my life HELPING others, and I will be the first to admit, it has not always been in the healthy means of helping.

I have learned through my life education, verified through my academic education, that I am here on this earth with a deep passion to EMPOWER others. Providing others with the knowledge, resources, belief and empowerment to be the best they can be in any given moment, circumstance or situation. Resting assured that there is no circumstance nor situation that is greater than themselves!

We can label, name, blame our situations and circumstances that have put us where we are today in this very moment. However, labels can possibly create some understanding as to the how we got here and why we are where we are. Naming can possibly give some clarification. Blaming, truly isn’t an option. Blaming is only displacing the issue that WE HAVE, and in reality we are the ONLY one who has control over the issue. The ONLY reason we Label, Name and Blame, is because we are HURT and uncertain how else to attempt to overcome, get rid of, or move on from an these issues that comes from dealing with others. Weather family, partner, co-workers or friends.

My Life Coaching mission and passion is to EMPOWER others to live A SPLENDID LIFE NOW! Teaching others how to UNSHACKLE their happiness, being happy who they are right now! Utilizing what they have went through or are going through to know they have been planted in the garden of grace and they will bloom! Living from the inside out.

When we live from the inside out, we can live with grace and peace no matter what we face. We allow ourselves to be all that we can be and allow others to do/be the same (in their own garden). We will learn that just because they may have weeds in their garden doesn’t mean they are/can/will plant weeds in ours, nor is it our responsibility to keep the weeds out of theirs. We know we will always have enough grace and peace for ourselves, we will know how to take care of our garden, harvest our supply when we need it, and know there is always more growing. When we take care of what we sow, we will always have a bountiful harvest when we need it.

It is when we become unshackled, we are free to pursue who we really are, what we are truly passionate about, and fulfill our purpose here on earth. After we unshackle ourselves from allowing others to hold the key, we are not always clear what or how we should “move on”. What we are truly capable of. What that looks like, with or without the support of our spouse or family.

I would love to share my garden harvest and my belief in YOU! Teaching and guiding you, empowering you, supporting you, and walking beside you in this journey of discovery. It is with great honor that I have been gifted this journey in life, and it would be of great honor to walk along side of you guiding you in your unleashing/unshackling process. Email me I would love to hear from you!!

If you would like, I would love to share 30 minutes with you unshackling, shoot me an email and we will set up a time that works for you!!

Here’s to UNSHACKLED HAPPINESS!!

Holly

Posted in Confidence

What IF… I AM?

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

I Am NEW, I Am FREE, I Am STRONG, I Am a LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS, I Am an OVER COMER, I Am a CHILD OF GOD, I Am CHOSEN, I Am RIGHTEOUS, I Am LOVED, I Am an AMBASSADOR, I Am REDEEMED, I Am COMPLETE, I Am PROTECTED, I Am a CONQUEROR, I Am PROSPEROUS, I Am THE TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT, I Am ROOTED.

When you look in the mirror who do you see?

YOU ARE good looking, YOU ARE smart, YOU ARE strong, YOU ARE valuable!

Do you sometimes think differently than this? before you answer this questions, take a moment and think about where any other response may come from. Why would you think otherwise? Where would these thoughts come from? Have they been spoken to you? Have you pondered these thoughts secretly? Are they rooted in doubt and insecurity or in confidence and truth?

We often tend to conform to the opinions of those around us, and use comparison to build our self-worth. We are whipping up a recipe of disaster for ourselves doing such a thing. Leading to a life being very fickle, and unhappy.

Comparison is a double-edge sward, too often leading to destruction! Stressing to fit in, wanting to stand out and the pressure to be perfect. These are all self induced afflictions, robbing us of our peace, joy and contentment. The bible warns us; “But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding” – 2 Corinthians 10:12 ESV

WHAT IF… YOU based your identity and self-worth on something other than the opinions of those around you or even your own opinions?

WHAT IF… YOUR value was based on something that never changes? Something that is fixed and decided for all eternity NEVER to be UNDONE? God determines WHO YOU ARE, and that is the ONLY “opinion” that matters!!

God NEVER changes in His thoughts towards YOU! He does not look at you as a lump sum of your decisions, nor does He judge you based on your worthiness. The moment you surrender to HIM, and confessing HIM as your Lord and Savior, is the moment God places a new identity on you, in you and for you!

He sees you as His child, He delights in YOUR HAPPINESS, and it is His firm desire to encourage and affirm your true identity—

I AM entitled to have passion, happiness, and healthy confidence. I was born to have, and live a life of passion, happiness and healthy confidence.

Send me an email at hollystevenswlc@gmail.com or message me https://www.facebook.com/ASplendidLifeNow to discover what Authentic Confidence is and how to feel safe enough to speak and act on our truth. We will learn the importance of connecting with the Infinite to expand our awareness and experience the life we would love to live. The very fact that we are alive and breathing means we deserve Confidence and this will help begin to restore trust in ourselves.