Where does your feeling of confidence come from? The ring on your finger? the vehicle you drive, your job title? your education? your parents/children’s status/success? the physical possessions you have? Where you live? your community status quo?
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Does your confidence come from within YOU? Knowing your physical being is in regular close connection with your spiritual being. Understanding your purpose in life. Knowing who you are with confidence lets you overcome fears. You learn from failures and make important decisions along the way. These empower you to create a life you love living. You understand your DNA of Authentic Self-Confidence. You know the truth of who you are. You feel comfortable and at ease in all areas of your life, no matter what.
Today’s society has a misconception of true authentic self-confidence and living from an external ego. Keeping up with the latest and greatest technology for our kids and ourselves to be {the new} social. I’m not referring to the need for technology for academics and work. Having the latest and greatest social apps so we can communicate 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Without eye contact, body language, and not knowing how to act when “in true person.” We post pictures that are ‘photoshopped’. We hope to never show our authentic, true selves. We do this because we never match up to the techno version we’ve created and put out there. Still, that “gap” WILL catch us. We won’t or can’t ever match up to the electronic version. Whether we are aware of it, it is riding on and in us consciously or unconsciously. It leads us to live in a world based on ego and defensiveness. We are running from ourselves or even trying to catch ourselves. This creates a double battle within us 24 hours a day, 7 days a week…
As my Mentors and Life Coaches have shared with me… I would like to share with you:
Some days we feel like we are on top of and can conquer the world! Other days, we don’t even want to get out of bed. We’ve all felt that way before. What is the difference between those kinds of days? Quite often, it is the degree of self-confidence we are feeling at that time. Many factors can influence how we feel about ourselves. They also impact our ability to do the things we want to do. It can be as simple as a ‘bad hair day.’ It can also be as tough as ‘feeling the pressure’ of living up to other’s expectations. These expectations include those we’ve put out there ourselves. There is a way to keep those outside influences from impacting our self-image and self-confidence. We can have more days when we feel powerful and unstoppable from within ourselves. We CAN live with AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE empowering ourselves to love life, and love living life.
I have been taught by my teachers, mentors, and coaches. Life has also taught me through hard knocks. The truth is that we are spiritual beings who have a human experience. It is part of life that someone will say something insensitive to us that hurts our feelings or embarrasses us. The natural human response is to feel slighted or deeply hurt. It can sometimes snowball. Those unkind words play on repeat in our own minds. They develop other not-so-pleasant thoughts about themselves. This process tears down our self-esteem. Our self-image can also be affected by the perceptions we have. These perceptions come from experiences in our childhood. They can be both positive and negative. The key is: not to allow criticism or shame to become a part of our belief in ourselves. To achieve this, we need to understand who we are at our core. We should live from this core as often as possible. Let it become our pervasive thought process. It means we connect with our inner being. We recognize the Infinite side of us. We always know we are truly more than any situation, circumstance, or condition that we face. Living the absolute best we can, in any given moment, no matter what is coming AT us. Remembering, a boat can’t sink unless the water gets inside.
Our physical being must be closely connected with our spiritual being. This connection helps us gain a better understanding of our purpose in life. Authentically knowing who we are builds confidence. It empowers us to overcome fears and learn from failures. This knowledge helps us make important decisions. It also allows us to love life and love the life we are living. When we understand the DNA of Authentic Self-Confidence, we know the truth of who we are. We can feel comfortable in all areas of our life. We stay authentically self-confident, no matter what is coming at us.
When we commit to taking time to connect with the Power breathing us each day, we gain authentic confidence. This confidence allows us to look fear in the face. We can then do nothing less than become friends with it. We must always know that fear doesn’t mean we can’t, it only means we haven’t. Confidence comes only after we choose to do what we were once afraid to do.
Self-confidence grows from the seeds planted and harvested of overcoming challenges and failures, turning obstacles into opportunities. We must accept and be empowered by defeat, without being defeated. Failure is nothing more than feedback, it is actually showing us there is another way to do things.
As we make a daily decision to take action, building our Authentic Self-Confidence, we will realize Confidence is a choice. We have supreme authority over our OWN DECISIONS. We have dominion over our OWN THOUGHTS. Our THOUGHTS affect our FEELINGS, and in turn, our ACTIONS, creating our RESULTS. We are responsible and ‘RESPONSE-ABLE’ for every single thought we think, and move we make. We can be clear and confident in our decision making. Realize that Authentic Self-Confidence is the trait that transforms thoughts into action. This leads to the results we want! We confidently know there are no ‘shortcuts’. We must do confidently what is necessary for ourselves, no matter what anyone else thinks. This allows us to be the best we can be and create the authentic life we want.
You absolutely can grow Authentic Self-Confidence! All that is required is that you pay attention to YOUR ‘Inner Voice’. It all begins on the inside – inside of YOU!
How do you do that? You ask this question just as I was allowed to do. The first step is creating an understanding of what Authentic Self-Confidence is and is not. I will be sharing what I have learned in the next five posts about:
- What I have learned about the truth about the source of where self-confidence comes from. Discovering what Confidence is, and is not. How to respond when Self-confidence takes a “hit”. Let it propel me towards a loving life. It should not derail me.
- Stepping out of the comfort zone, doing it with confidence. Allowing authentic Confidence to overcome the fears that used to get in the way.
- Changing perspective on failures in the past, now, and future. Everyone experiences failure in life. My response to the circumstances is what makes the difference in life.
- I have been taught what the key is to making any important decision. I have made the most important decision in my life. I gained a new understanding to help me make any future choice with clarity and confidence.
- This experience has brought me back full circle to the core of my Self-Confidence. I know that my Authentic Self is NOT made by the opinions of others. It is rather shaped from the inside out of ME. I received a secret formula. I have implemented it into my life. Some of the world’s most famous people have used this formula to create immense success in their lives and businesses.
I look forward to continuing my journey into greater Authentic Self-confidence and sharing these skills and outcomes with you. I have been blessed with many failures in my life. These failures have created stepping stones for me. At the time, I do not imagine those failures as blessings. I have been blessed with amazing mentors, coaches, therapists, pastors, and friends. Confidantes and many others have helped me, too. They have helped me recognize the stepping stones and lay them on the correct path. This has helped build the foundation for MY Authentic Core Self, creating Authentic Self-Confidence. I can only give because of what I have received. I strongly want to give others the blessings I have received…
To Your Authentic Core Self, having Authentic Self-Confidence
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A Splendid Life Now! 