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Confidence #5

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.

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Have you been able to connect with and hear your inner voice? Have you taken time to get quiet and discover your choices or decisions that are in harmony with your highest good?

It is absolutely amazing that we have been blessed with such an amazing guidance system – in truth, it is SO much better than any other personal GPS!

It is so easy to get caught up in our daily routines and habits that we ignore the messages that our Intuition is providing us. Again, if we choose to get quiet, listening to these messages, this allows decisions to come to us faster, feeling movement forward as never before. Knowing that we can choose to get quiet, and listen to ourselves in the most external chaotic of situations. We can choose to take a breath and to quiet our internal chaos, while we listen for/to our inner voice. Sometimes we may have to physically get away to be in the quiet to get quiet, other times we may just need to take a deep breath and consciously quiet our mind while we listen.

Having freedom from the opinions of others is especially important: one of the greatest GIFTS we have been GIVEN when we were born into this life is the capacity to CONSCIOUSLY reflect within our OWN Self. Each and everyone of us can think our own thoughts, considering those thoughts BEFORE actually acting on them. We CAN UNLOCK the FREEDOM to follow OUR DESIRES and to receive the warnings when something may not be in harmony with OUR BEING.

We DO NOT need to look for, or have the approval from others. Authentic Self-Confidence can ONLY come from WITHIN US. The opinion of others is not truth – the TRUTH is WITHIN US. Developing Rock- solid Self-Confidence will support us through any challenges we face in our journey of life.

As we get in touch with our CORE being, the source of our Confidence. Discovering, and allowing our inner voice to speak, while we truly listen, THIS is what makes us feel ALIVE.

Learning the secret of where to find our Authentic Self-Confidence when we need it most, making a strong, deep, loving connection with our inner voice so we can call upon it at anytime we need to be liberated from the opinions of others is where we are now. When we are “FREE to be ME”, to be our OWN SELF, we can be confident, comfortable and feel at ease, no matter the situation.

Discovering the formula that the world’s most successful people have chosen in developing their confidence in the most heart-felt ways for decades is life changing. I will share these steps shortly, and we can walk through, one by one, applying them to each part of our lives. Putting them in to practice on a regular basis, our passion for life will amplify, and sharing this confidence from within ourselves with others around us.

One of the greatest blessings we are each given in this life is the capacity and ability to consciously reflect within our own Self. We are gifted the ability to first, think our own thoughts, then considering those thoughts BEFORE we act on them. KNOWING this allows us the FREEDOM to follow our OWN DESIRES, with the understanding we can also be aware or alerted when something is not in harmony with OUR BEING. Being aware of both internal and external influences, and how they are affecting our Authentic Self-Confidence.

Since we can remember, we have been taught to look outside ourselves and to others for approval. Seeking a smile or nod from our parents. Seeking good grades from our teachers. Seeking the glances from our romantic partner. Listening for words of approval from our spouse or partner. Seeking the promotion from our bosses. These are all things (and many more) or moments that would seem to build our confidence in some way or another… they are only external, not Authentic Self-Confidence.

Authentic Self-Confidence comes from ONLY ONE PLACE: from WITHIN. Allowing the approval of others to build us up, allows their criticism to tear us down just as easily. The fact of the matter is: the opinion of others is not truth. TRUTH is INSIDE each and every one of us. Confidence is from the inside out, THIS is what we are developing the AWARENESS of: CONFIDENCE IS FROM THE INSIDE!

When the realization and acceptance of the fact: Confidence is an inside job, becoming deeply ingrained in our being, NOTHING anyone can say or do will have the ability to negatively impact us, or tear us down for any length of time. We are UNSHACKLING from WITHIN us, something we have ALWAYS had, an UNSHAKABLE AUTHENTIC TRUE SELF-CONFIDENCE. This unshakable Self-Confidence will see us through ANY of the challenges we are facing, or that come our way from here forward.

We may have had a very specific, damaging, life-changing moment, situation or circumstance in which someone said something, or something happened that cut us to the core, as a child or as an adult. KNOW THIS: that was something that happened. What was said was not truth or what happened has a positive seed planted within it! Each of us is deserving of HAPPINESS. By BIRTHRIGHT, we are entitled to a Authentic Self-Confidence, freeing us from the opinions of others!

Spend some time, one-on-one with your Self, really get in touch with your core being, the very source of YOUR Confidence. When practiced with dedication, and true attention, these five steps, followed and practiced diligently will unshackle and expand your Self-Confidence to a new awareness.

Napoleon Hill, who studied many successful people, famously known for his research and findings, formulated these steps in which are proven to building Self-Confidence.

Napoleon Hill's Formula for Building Self-Confidence:
   Step ONE:    Believe that there is a power in you great enough that you can achieve what matters to you.
   Step TWO:    Concentrate your thoughts on creating a clear mental picture of you being the person who is living the life you desire.
   Step THREE:  Trust that the desire you hold in mind, if kept in mind, must, by invisible law reproduce itself in the world of form.
   Step FOUR:   Promise yourself to keep at it until you have developed a sufficient Self-Confidence to reach your goal.
   Step FIVE:   Commit to not only being the person who's living this life, but doing that with truth and justice in all that you do, so that all that's required to bring about this goal becomes yours.

When we are faced with overcoming failure, facing fear or there is a decision weighing heavy on us. When we feel stuck in the pursuit of our purpose, passion or life dream, you can go back to these five steps (print them off, keep them with you) for a reminder of how to access YOUR Authentic Self-Confidence. Be open to YOUR INNER VOICE, allowing it to do the talking while you do the listening, seeing the opinions of others diminish as you engage in YOUR TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE.

Here is a recap of what I have personally learned and utilize myself and would like to share with you:

  • The ‘self’ with a little (lowercase) “s” is our personality and all the things we have achieved or not achieved. Some identify this as our ego.
  • The ‘Self’ with a big (uppercase capital) “S” is the power and intelligence that is present in us at ALL times.
  • Trusting my Self is the ultimate in Confidence.
  • Confidence is not built from the outside in. It is built from THE INSIDE OUT!
  • Self speaks to us in the degree of OUR WILLINGNESS TO LISTEN, always in the here and now.
  • Utilizing Napoleon Hill’s proven Five step formula for Building Self-Confidence. Believing, Concentrating, Trusting, Promising Self and being Committed to the Self that is created in/of/for ME.
  • There is an art and a science to reaching our passion, purpose and dream. The art is the visioning. The science is the vibration.

The suggested actions that I do take action on each and every day are:

  1. Following and practicing Napoleon Hill’s Formula for Building Self-Confidence
  2. Remembering daily to place my Confidence and trust in the Power breathing me. NOT in my personality, history or talents.
  3. Writing out a clear and detailed description of the image I desire, writing it in the present tense as if it IS real RIGHT NOW!

This is #5 of #5 in this series of Authentic Self-Confidence. Please join me for a review of all that I have shared with you about Unshackling an Unshakable True Authentic Self-Confidence, at https://www.facebook.com/unshackledhappiness/. Empowering you to turn the key and break free of your shackles with belief in your Self and your abilities to live your life with passion on purpose, starting TODAY! That is my TRUE, GIVEN passion with my purpose to empower others to be the best that they can be in any given moment, situation or under any circumstances they are facing.

GO! DO! BE! with TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE, all that YOU have been CREATE to DO and BE with PURPOSE and PASSION from WITHIN YOU!!

Cheering you on every step of the way,

Holly

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Authentic Self-Confidence

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

Where does your feeling of confidence come from? The ring on your finger? the vehicle you drive? your job title? your education? your parents/children status/success? the physical possessions you have? where you live? your community status quo?

OR

Does your confidence come from within YOU? Knowing your physical being is in regular close connection with your spiritual being. Understanding your purpose in life. Knowing who you are in confidence, enabling you to overcome fears, learn from failures and make important decisions along the way to creating a life you love living. You understand your DNA of Authentic Self-Confidence, and know the truth of who you are, feeling comfortable and at ease in all areas of your life, no matter what.

In society today, it appears as though there is a misconception of true authentic self-confidence and living from an external ego. Keeping up with the latest and greatest technology for our kids and ourselves to be {the new} social. I’m not referring to the need for technology for academics and work. Having the latest and greatest social apps so that we can communicate 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Without eye contact, body language, and not knowing how to act when “in true person”. Posting pictures that are ‘photo shopped’ and hoping to not ever have to show our real, true self because we could never match up to the techno version we’ve created and put out there… However, that “gap” WILL catch us, and we won’t/can’t ever match up to the electronic version, whether we are aware of it, consciously or unconsciously it is riding on and in us. In turn causing us to live in an ego and defensive based world for ourselves, running from ourselves or maybe even trying to catch ourselves. This creates a double battle within ourselves 24 hours a day 7 days a week…

As my Mentors and Life Coaches have shared with me… I would like to share with you:

Some days we feel like we are on top of and can conquer the world! Other days, we don’t even want to get out of bed. We’ve all felt that way before. What is the difference between those kind of days? Quite often, it is the degree of self-confidence we are feeling at that time. There are many variables that can affect the way we feel about ourselves and our ability to do the things we want to do. It can be as simple as a ‘bad hair day’ or as tough as ‘feeling the pressure’ of living up to others expectations and/or the expectations we’ve put out there ourselves. There is a way to keep those outside influences from impacting our self-image and self confidence. We can have more days we feel powerful and unstoppable from within ourselves. We CAN live with AUTHENTIC SELF-CONFIDENCE empowering ourselves to love life, and love living life.

As I have been taught not only by my teachers, mentors, coaches, but through the hard knocks of life… the TRUTH is; we are spiritual beings having a human experience. It is part of life, that someone will say something insensitive to us that hurts our feelings or embarrasses us. The natural human response is to feel slighted or possibly deeply hurt. It can sometimes snowball as those unkind words play on repeat in our own mind, developing other not so pleasant thinking about ourselves, tearing on our self-esteem. Our self-image can also be affected by the perceptions we have that came from experiences in our childhood, both positive and negative. The key is: not to allow criticism or shame to become a part of our belief about ourselves. The way to do that is to know who we are at our core, living from our core as often as possible, letting it become our pervasive thought process. It is connecting with our inner being, the Infinite side of us, always knowing we are truly more than any situation, circumstance or condition that we encounter. Living the absolute best we can, in any given moment, no matter what is coming AT us. Remembering, a boat can’t sink, unless the water gets inside.

Allowing our physical being to be in close connection with our spiritual being, we then better understand our purpose in life. Authentically knowing who we are, builds confidence, empowering us to overcome fears, learn from failures and make important decisions all while allowing us to love life, and love the life we are living. When we understand the DNA of Authentic Self-Confidence, knowing the truth of who we are, we can feel comfortable, and authentically self-confident in all areas of our life, no matter what is coming at us.

When we commit to taking time to connect with the Power breathing us each and everyday, we will see and feel more than enough authentic confidence to look fear in the face and do nothing less than become friends with it. We must always know that fear doesn’t mean we can’t, it only means we haven’t. Confidence comes only after we choose to do what we were once afraid to do.

Self-Confidence grows from the seeds planted and harvested of overcoming challenges and failures, turning obstacles into opportunities. We must accept and be empowered by defeat, without being defeated. Failure is nothing more than feedback, it is actually showing us there is another way to do things.

As we make a daily decision to take action, building our Authentic Self-Confidence, we will realize Confidence is a choice. We have supreme authority over our OWN DECISIONS. We have dominion over our OWN THOUGHTS. Our THOUGHTS affect our FEELINGS, and in turn our ACTIONS, creating our RESULTS. We are responsible and ‘RESPONSE – ABLE’ for every single thought we think, and move we make. We can be the CLEAR, CONFIDENT decision maker, WHEN we realize that Authentic Self-Confidence is the trait that turns thoughts into action leading to the results we want! Confidently knowing there are no ‘short-cuts’, doing confidently what we must do for ourselves, no matter what anyone else thinks, To be the best we can be, creating the authentic life we want.

You absolutely can grow Authentic Self-Confidence! All that is required is that you pay attention to YOUR ‘Inner Voice’. It all begins on the inside – inside of YOU!

How do you do that? you may ask, just as I was given the opportunity to do, first creating an understanding of what Authentic Self-Confidence is and is not. I will be sharing what I have learned in the next five post about:

  • What I have learned regarding the truth about the source of where self confidence comes from. Discovering what Confidence is, and is not. How to respond when Self-confidence takes a “hit”, allowing it to propel me towards a loving life, rather than to derail.
  • Stepping out of the comfort zone, doing it with confidence. Allowing authentic Confidence to overcome the fears that used to get in the way.
  • Changing perspective on failures in the past, present, and future. No one gets through this life without {experiencing} failure, and it is how I choose to respond to the circumstances that makes the difference in life.
  • I have been taught what the key is to making any important decision. I have made the most important decision I have ever made, with learning a new understanding to help me make any choice in the future with clarity and confidence.
  • This has brought me back full circle to the core of my Self-Confidence, and knowing that my Authentic Self is NOT made by the opinions of others, rather from the inside out of ME. I have been given a secret formula I’ve implemented into my life that some of the world’s most famous people have used to create immense success in their lives and businesses.

I look forward to continuing my journey into greater Authentic Self-confidence and sharing these skills and outcomes with you. I have been blessed with many failures in my life that have created stepping stones for me, however, at the time I could not imagine those failures as blessings. I have been blessed with amazing mentors, coaches, therapist, pastors, friends, confidantes, and many others too, who have helped me recognize the stepping stones, lay them in the correct path, to building the foundation to MY Authentic Core Self, creating Authentic Self-Confidence. It is only through what I have been given, that I am able to give, and I have a great desire to give to others what I have been blessed with…

To Your Authentic Core Self, having Authentic Self-Confidence

Holly

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Gift of Life…

Posted on by HOLLY STEVENS

As I sit here on this beautiful Monday morning, after working in the garden, and watering flowers… even the ones I just planted on Friday are already “popping” up… I am thankful the predicted weekend storms that were to come through with wind, rain, and hail, we were spared from in our area. I sit in absolute aw and amazement, listening to the birds and the light breeze blow and this story came to me that I would love to share with you!

A group of scientists who having discovered the secrets of cloning decided they would have a conference with God to tell God He was no longer needed. Yes, God had created humanity and all of life, in fact, from the very dust of the earth. But now science had taken over the job and God could retire.

So the top scientists in the world gathered together and they called God to a conference having told God, He/She was no longer required.

God said, “Explain this to me.”

They said, “We now know how to make life out of dust ourselves.”

God replied, “Well then, Okay, you go ahead and show me how you can do that.”

So the scientist reached down for some dirt and God said, “Uh, uh, uh, get your own dirt.”

I love this story because it reminds us that we get confused at times and think (and believe) things belong to us, even our life itself. We begin to forget at times how precious the gift is of our daily life.

In everything we call ours, even our children, our spouses, our friends; they’re GIFTS on loan from the universe.

How precious it is to have these GIFTS in our lives this day; to have eyes to see and ears to hear. This day is a GIFT and it ALL belongs to the one who sources all of this.

So, this day, let’s walk around in appreciation that we get to walk in the ABUNDANCE of the GIFT of this LIFE.

To Your Gift of LIFE, Abundant Blessings you are and have,

Holly

P.S. Would you like support unshackling your passion, and building your dreams? If you would like a complimentary no obligation strategy session shoot me an email at: asplendidlifenow@gmail.com